MDNana
Nov 15, 2012, 06:41 AM
I have a problem and considering pressing charges.
I have had custody of 3 of my grandchildren for 10 years now - they were 2,3 and 4 when They came to live with me.
The oldest (a female) wanted to live with her Aunt so we did the paperwork and she lived with her for 2 years. When this insident happened her youndest daughter was 3 and my other grandaughter was 9 or had just turned 10. The 3 yr old came to her mom laughing and said look how funny __________ looked at me, isn't she silly? Well what had happened was the 10 yr. old licked the 3 yr old on her breast while looking in the 3 yr olds eyes. When asked why she did it she had no answer. When questioned the 3 yr old said she was never touched anywhere else (questions were 3 yrd old appropriate). I removed the 10 year old from their home within a day or two to return home with us explaining to her that we all missed her. NOW my daughter has been divorced for two years and her X-husband has been remarried for 2 years. There is a fight for sharing custody of the youngest. The father ( a police Officer) is now bringing up the incident that happened 5 yrs ago calling the now 15 year old a child molester and feels that his now 8 year old is in danger if the 15 year old visits.
NOTHING has ever happened again with the 15 year old. She is in High School and studying to become a nurse. Her Uncle is constantly referring to her as a child molester for that one and only incident. If he continues this will hurt her in so many ways and possibly her career choice. She will be looked at differently by EVERYONE. This is wrong in so many ways. Now since that one little incident 5 yrs ago he has let his child go on vacation with us which includes the older child. But now since this has become an ugly custody battle he is name calling in the courts. I cannot convince him that what she did was normal curiosity and has never happened again. To me this is slander and I don't know is pressing charges on him for slander is wrong BUT he is throwing the Child Molester word around a lot. HELP
I have had custody of 3 of my grandchildren for 10 years now - they were 2,3 and 4 when They came to live with me.
The oldest (a female) wanted to live with her Aunt so we did the paperwork and she lived with her for 2 years. When this insident happened her youndest daughter was 3 and my other grandaughter was 9 or had just turned 10. The 3 yr old came to her mom laughing and said look how funny __________ looked at me, isn't she silly? Well what had happened was the 10 yr. old licked the 3 yr old on her breast while looking in the 3 yr olds eyes. When asked why she did it she had no answer. When questioned the 3 yr old said she was never touched anywhere else (questions were 3 yrd old appropriate). I removed the 10 year old from their home within a day or two to return home with us explaining to her that we all missed her. NOW my daughter has been divorced for two years and her X-husband has been remarried for 2 years. There is a fight for sharing custody of the youngest. The father ( a police Officer) is now bringing up the incident that happened 5 yrs ago calling the now 15 year old a child molester and feels that his now 8 year old is in danger if the 15 year old visits.
NOTHING has ever happened again with the 15 year old. She is in High School and studying to become a nurse. Her Uncle is constantly referring to her as a child molester for that one and only incident. If he continues this will hurt her in so many ways and possibly her career choice. She will be looked at differently by EVERYONE. This is wrong in so many ways. Now since that one little incident 5 yrs ago he has let his child go on vacation with us which includes the older child. But now since this has become an ugly custody battle he is name calling in the courts. I cannot convince him that what she did was normal curiosity and has never happened again. To me this is slander and I don't know is pressing charges on him for slander is wrong BUT he is throwing the Child Molester word around a lot. HELP