Hi all,

I am into a dilemma. I have been together with my boyfriend for 10 years and I know the passion isn't what it used to be but recently after a few arguments he said he doesn't find me attractive anymore, as I am more like a sister for him and not a partner. After making up he always regrets what he said, he apologize, and he says he didn't mean it. But that is upsetting for me.

In the past, he used to say he loved me often, now I need to ask him if he does love me and he says : of course I love you.

What do you think guys? We are of different nationalities, and he is living in a country he doesn't really like at the moment. I mean, he came here with me because he said he cares etc. As far as I know he doesn't have anybody else , but it seems the passion is becoming less after such a long time, What do you think I should do ? Please help

Maybe he is a little homesick. Ten years is a long time, maybe you two should try doing something you used to enjoy doing together when you were both very passionate. Rekindle what was once there. I am sure if he did not want to be with you he would leave. Try talking to him about oepn mindley and just lay it all out. When people do fight you just say something to hurt the other person, sometimes. It does suck that he said but if he apologizzes and you want to move past it, you need to do your best and forget what he said. Do not feel insecure, this coud also be the cause of any problems. Work on yourselves and also the relationship, if it is meant to be it will work out in the end. Hang in there.