Hey I wrote on here a few months ago about how I messaged an old girlfriend on a social networking site and didn't get a reply. It turns out she didn't see it , well with the new 'seen' feature on Facebook anyway.
So if she didn't see it, where do I go from here? Message again? Or is that seen feature reliable?
Don't want to make a fool out of myself if she did see it

I wasn't aware there was such a feature...

If, however, there is, and she said she didn't see it, then why not resend when you had the chance?

Also, when she mentioned her not seeing it, did she request that you resend?

She could have really read it, and did not want to respond to you, so she only said that to be nice...

I wasn't aware there was such a feature....

If, however, there is, and she said she didn't see it, then why not resend when you had the chance?

Also, when she mentioned her not seeing it, did she request that you resend?

She could have really read it, and did not want to respond to you, so she only said that to be nice....

The feature shows you if someone has seen your message, we have not been in contact. It says seen under your message if it was opened, it looks like my message was not opened

The feature shows you if someone has seen your message, we have not been in contact. It says seen under your message if it was opened, it looks like my message was not opened

Ahhh see? I learned something new. :)

It could very well be that she hasn't read it yet. May I ask you why you just can't call her? I don't know if you even have her number. Perhaps you don't and this is the only way you can communicate with her...

As a woman, I would rather have my ex contact me through phone verses email. Again though, you may not have her current number.

Did things end badly between you two?

No they didn't end badly but thet ended a very long time ago, do not have her number. Am nervous that she won't want to get back in touch. Will I just leave it?

I would just leave it alone... That's just me, though. If she wants to respond then she will.

Yeah, I guess, but then maybe she gets a lot of messages and mines got buried, for some reason she hasn't seen it. Don't want to miss the chance to reconnect with her

How long has it been since you last spoke to her?

23 years

Oh wow! And you want to reconnect, as in get back together with her?

Well I would love to see her and see what happens. She has been on my mind since I sent the first message

How many messages did you send her? Did she respond back to the first message? If so, how did she seem?

I sent one message. According to Facebook she did not see it.
So she has not responded

I think after that and 23 years since you have last seen her, I would just move on.

Oh my god , I'm just having similar situation. Last "contact" is 2 years ago, I don't have her phone numbers, I don't have her address, she's living thousands miles away. She had a very long touch time because of me. I just realized what happened before, just know what she did for me. I send her many messages, she didn't reply any and without a "seen" indicator. I just want her back, what should I do?

Oh my god , I'm just having similar situation. Last "contact" is 2 years ago, I don't have her phone numbers, I don't have her address, she's living thousands miles away. She had a very long *tough time because of me. I just realized what happened before, just know what she did for me. I send her many messages, she didn't reply any and without a "seen" indicator. I just want her back, what should I do?
*tough time

*tough time

It's been a month and I saw her updated her Facebook. She didn't accept my friend request, I sent her hundreds messages. She didn't block me. And I gave her tough time just because of mistake, I didn't know I made such a big mistake. I really love her! I'd do anything for her.

It's been a month and I saw her updated her facebook. She didn't accept my friend request, I sent her hundreds messages. She didn't block me. And I gave her tough time just because of mistake, I didn't know I made such a big mistake. I really love her! I'd do anything for her.

Guys, you have to realize that sometimes you just need to let things go... even people.

You sent her a hundred messages? Don't you think that is border line stalker material?

The OP only sent her one after 23 years... That is not stalker material in my book... yet. Simply because his is more legit. You, however, sent her many and she has not responded, therefore you NEED to let it go.

Speaking from a woman's point of veiw, this looks desperate.

If these women want to respond to the both of you, then they will. If not, then let it go.

It sounds weird but she really stalked me before and she hurt herself, gave up her brilliant career for me.

Guys, you have to realize that sometimes you just need to let things go...even people.

You sent her a hundred messages? Don't you think that is border line stalker material?

The OP only sent her one after 23 years... That is not stalker material in my book...yet. Simply because his is more legit. You, however, sent her many and she has not responded, therefore you NEED to let it go.

Speaking from a womans point of veiw, this looks desperate.

If these women want to respond to the both of you, then they will. If not, then let it go.

It sounds weird but she really stalked me before, she did so much and she didn't give me up easily. She hurt herself and gave up her brilliant career. I really didn't know she did so much for me. I knew no reply is a signal, but would it possible that she just wants me to chase her back? I love her and I'd die for her. I will marry her or die alone.

It sounds weird but she really stalked me before, she did so much and she didn't give me up easily. She hurt herself and gave up her brilliant career. I really didn't know she did so much for me. I knew no reply is a signal, but would it possible that she just wants me to chase her back? I love her and I'd die for her. I will marry her or die alone.

It seems more like infatuation than love...

I think she is ignoring you because you are dangerous to her and she knows it. Perhaps she knows how absurd her behavior was and doesn't want to relive that experience again.

She might be trying to heal and you are making it worse with your emails.

I would leave her alone.

It seems more like infatuation than love...

I think she is ignoring you because you are dangerous to her and she knows it. Perhaps she knows how absurd her behavior was and doesn't want to relive that experience again.

She might be trying to heal and you are making it worse with your emails.

I would leave her alone.She said that was an accident, because she was missing me and can't concentrate and so the accident happened. I'm not sure, I just guess she did it on purpose. But that was the past, she still came for me after she recovered from it, she didn't regret about it at all.

And I just remember that she said she won't give me any chance, she won't find me again and she won't reply or read my messages when she left 2 years ago. She said that I would regret and I have to crawl back to her if I love her. For some reason, she knew that I would definitely regret 2 years after(NOW). Would she just wants me to show her how much I love her?

I really don't know what to do now. That was 2 years before. I don't know whether she changed her mind. I don't know if she's dating with others. I just knew that she went on other guy's car. She told others they were friends only but I don't know if she just wants to keep her secret or not. I knew that guy chased her so long. She said she won't accept him 2 years before, because she was still loving me. But now I don't know if she changed her mind, 2 years is not a short time. I really don't know what happened in these 2 years.

I addedd my first love on FB other day. I was over it a long time ago. I messaged her no response and she has seen it. I thought it a bit rude to not respond but no big deal. Don't really care. Nice to see she is doing well though :)

Its awsome to get to that point and realise you can move on. It just takes a long time. Funny how you get held up over one person for so long even though they are so unhealthy for you.

Malufan, may I suggest that you start your own thread about this, seeing as you're hijacking Gottheblues thread, and taking away focus from his question.