Why do people lock and hold hands during sex?

Who does... some might but they all don't.

I'm asking about the ones that do and why not the majority of who dies and don't just general question what makes those that do it.

Why do some kiss during sex? Why do some intertwine legs during sex? Why do some play music during sex? Why do some talk during sex? Why do some eat grapes during sex? Why do some drink Kahlua during sex? Why do some turn on a white noise machine during sex? Why do some push off all the blankets during sex? Why do some cover themselves up with blankets during sex?

There are almost as many answers as there are people that do it.

Some may do that because they caught up in the moment. Love making can be very intense. Many feelings come into play from this causing people to look into each others eyes, whisper in each others ears, locking hands, kissing passionately, caressing cheeks or even pushing his thrust deeper inside.

Sex/love making is a strong connection between two people, and many people react to different things. Perhaps people who lock hands during sex feels closer to their partner.

Hope this helps.

How about kissing the neck?

How about kissing the neck?
The neck is a very sensitive erogenous zone that increases sexual longings.

How about kissing the neck?

Again, Lisa, same thing goes for kissing...

Are you asking these questions because you are young and just curious about sex, or are you asking because your lover is doing these things to you during sex?

Curious

Going through therapy for my husbands long term 3yr sex fling.Which can be salvage because it was only sex.I know everything. Him holding her hands and locking.Kissing before intercourse and performing oral for three yrs.I know she feels used because that's what he did.She feels lonely and used.I think now we can move on.I can forgive him for this mistake but our marriage is built on love. Can this be saved.

Lisa, I merged your latest question about saving your marriage with this one because they are ultimately about the same subject-let the past go to move forward.

As long as you are going on about what 'they' did and punishing yourself with questions about what it meant when they what they did, you will not heal and you will not move forward. It also means you marriage will be doomed.

If you want your marriage to succeed, stop obsessing over their affair. Let the hurt go and move forward or hold on to the pain and keep it fresh and alive and ruin any chance of finding happiness in your marriage.

Going through therapy for my husbands long term 3yr sex fling.Which can be salvage because it was only sex.I know everything. Him holding her hands and locking.Kissing before intercourse and performing oral for three yrs.I know she feels used because that's what he did.She feels lonely and used.I think now we can move on.I can forgive him for this mistake but our marriage is built on love. Can this be saved.

Ahhh OK, I see now.

Your threads were merged together. Now I see why you are asking these questions...

First, why on earth would you want to stay with him after this?

He spent three years with this woman.

Cheating on you.

I even went back and read through all Lisa's other threads. Too bad it would be horribly difficult to merge them all. It would give a good snapshot of her being stuck after this affair.

Have you had individual counseling, Lisa?

I'm crying it was nothing...

I'm crying it was nothing...
If it was nothing, why are you crying?

I'm crying it was nothing...

Lisa, I remember you and your situation now. The last time you came on here, things got pretty heated between you and some of the members.

So let's try to focuss on this and not start any arguments. Sound good?

Now, back to you.

You came on here again. You are obviously in pain. I realize that.

Three years is a long affair, don't you agree? Not to mention the text you found between the two of them.

Clearly he thinks about her. He misses her. That I am willing to bet.

How much longer can you take this? Asking or even wanting to know every single detail pertaining to their sex.

Be honest here, do you think or are you willing to let this go? Even after knowing that his mouth was on her body, his hands, lips and tongue was on her? Because I don't. You will dwell on this. You will hurt. Either you let it go or you let him go...

But when he's with me we're so occupied he's not thinking of her.Its only when he's at work and not with me.Hes bored at work she texts him he text back.He can't possibly have any feelings for her.Can you really have feelings for someone your just having sex with on a monthly basis for couple yrs? No way.he using her right?They don't go out in public.

But when hes with me we're so occupied hes not thinking of her.Its only when hes at work and not with me.Hes bored at work she texts him he text back.He can't possibly have any feelings for her.Can you really have feelings for someone your just having sex with on a monthly basis for couple yrs? No way.he using her right?They don't go out in public.
He is still seeing her and having sex with her? He communicates with her on a regular basis? And you think it's because he is bored?

He is still seeing her and having sex with her? He communicates with her on a regular basis? And you think it's because he is bored?

Men do that.he not texting her while he's home with me.He don't hang out with fellas i.e. anything.

Men do that.he not texting her while hes home with me.He don't hang out with fellas ie anything.
Men DO NOT do that!!

But when hes with me we're so occupied hes not thinking of her.Its only when hes at work and not with me.Hes bored at work she texts him he text back.He can't possibly have any feelings for her.Can you really have feelings for someone your just having sex with on a monthly basis for couple yrs? No way.he using her right?They don't go out in public.

Those questions are hard for me to answer simply because when I am making love, I am "making love". I have not had sex with someone I didn't feel strongly about.

I don't know him, or his character. The way you describe their sex seems more passionate than the average, just take your pants off and bend over sex. So that I don't know. He may still have feelings for her. Then again, I don't know.

The fact that he texts her at work and you know this makes me believe you don't value yourself enough to say that's it, I am done.

Why are you dwelling on this? If you do want to make things work, then what difference does it make if he locked hands with her during sex?

In your other thread you said things were fine, that you're working things out, that your relationship is built on love.

Frankly, I think you both need therapy. You both need a lot more help than anyone on this site can offer. You don't want advice, you don't take advice, you only want to talk. That's fine, but if you want relationship advice, well, your relationshiop is not one anyone on this site is capable of dealing with.

To everyone posting, read the OP's other threads. This relationship is messed up, and only a certified therapist will be able to help, and only if the OP and her husband is willing to be honest and straightforward, something she's not able to, or willing to do, on this site. It's a waste of time to post, she won't get anything from it, she'll only fight what you post.