itchylixx
Nov 3, 2012, 01:24 PM
I live in a" makeshift room" in the unfinished basement of my on/off/on/off girlfriends house In frederick Maryland I share the rest of the house with her two high school
Teens a dog and 2 cats.. I moved in in early to mid November but did not start paying rent until December 1. 2011. The choice for me to reside in
Am in the basement was for the purpose of discretion ~~~she did not feel comfortable with her kids and ex-husband(actually they are not legally
Devorced-- separated for 7 years)
When I first moved in with her she suggested we try it for a month or 2 before I established this as my place of residence - to make sure it would
Be a good situation 4 both of us and the rest of the family.
I have since moved quite a few of my belongings-- including some 30 computers 6 guitars ,amplifyer, home computer recording studio, art work ,
Supplies,bed, TV, Xbox ,etc invested a great deal of time and effort in making my "space" and the rest of the basement inhabitable--for me as well
As for anyone else that might want too use some gym equipment in the back of the basement... or look for something stored in various areas of the
Basement( I organized that stuff too)-- I am to this day still working on this "Project.
.
I dont know how much to include in this question- because i dont know what is legally relevant.EXample:Soon after i moved in she quit her job-
collected unemployment, got charged with a 3rd DWI charge and another conviction of driving with a suspended liscense.Issues like this have drained
me finacially and emotionally --and created friction between us-- but we have always managed to keep things civil and maintain the friendship part--
the relationship and the resulting intimacy is on again off again.I think its off at the moment..lol The point being that i have committed to and
been much more than just a tenent. I have loaned/ given her money, taken care of the animals- house maintnance, drove her and her kids everyday for a
month when b4 she got a temporary , to work and AA meetings only liscense-- etc, etc, etc.
In the last couple of month she finally gained employement and makes quite a bit of money-() 100,00+) However, she has so many financial issues
relating to the recent convictions and depts and overdue payments-- from overdue taxes to late fees on just about every thing and of course the
insane cost of raising to spoiled children.
Here is where my problem and question/s come in -- finally!! sorry for the verbage!! thx 4 your patience.
2 weeks ago she announced that her "ex"husband was moving back in to help her with the kids , house maintence and bills, and possibly ready the
property for sale. In short even thought there is a guest room where he resides when on his days with kids,etc. Allegedly his appartment building is
going up for sale and he needs to move his belongs here soon.. IN short she expects me to move out with my belongings by
december 1st..
Personally I feel this is not in anyway shape or form a reasonable or just. I have been on disability(DEprssion, anxiety,etc) since 2002. My
disability has extended to the realm of the physical for the last year+ due to a herneated disk in lower back- and debilitating general lower back
pain that has been a real problem for the last 4 months..With a combination of pain meds( non-opiate)i can get work done in 20 to 30 minute segments
with stretching and sitting breaks in between- the pain gets so bad i have to stop and rest.In addition to this my left arm which was severly broken
2 years ago, has healed wrong and is only about 70 percent functional-- if that.
Obviously due to my mental and emotional health-- I feel like a deer in front of headlights with the clock ticking .
For my disability i recieve only 690$ a month- 400 of which goes immediately to "rent" I have no car. No extra income- no community of peers to turn
to for help
I have however become aware of general legal issues from people who have had personal experience with thi, including my therapist who often deals
with clients that have had these issues.
The general consensis is that the laws in Maryland heavily favor my position and assesment that in reality it will take much more than just a month
to legally "evict" me.
It was also told me that because there is no lease, my position as a member of this household has been established-- I get mail here, I have all of
My belongings here, etc. Also, as of December 1,2012 it will be 1 year since I began paying rent-- as I said before I was practically living here
Through most of NOvember-- which extends the period of notification I need to 2 months. I do not consider her my landlord. I pay a certain
Amount each month make my financial contribution as a member of this household..
Possession is 9/10 of the law I was told-- which was translated to mean in my case -- since I was given not only access to the basement but also
Access to the rest of the house-- to go about the business of daily living-- in other words this is part my home in a practical sense--- Landlord
Tenant laws do not universally apply-- to the point-- I have been told by several people that I could drag this out for as long as I needed to acquire
Another place to live.
By the way she has given me no written notice or any legal document informing me to vacate..
I apologize again for the length of this post, and any errors--typos,grammar, spelling, etc..
I do intend to seek legal advise asap.. I am comforted a bit by what others have said in regards to my position but as with any advice you take it with
A grain of salt...
It wassuggested that it would be in both mine and her best interest to sit down and come up with a plan that was good for both of us..
I really don't want the conflict, drama, etc and would prefer this route or something like it... However, I will fight if I have to. I do not feel
That it it is ethically or legally correct for her to quickly get rid of me , now that it is more convenient to have her ex here in this basement.
Will somebody who is familiar with actual Maryland laws and policies concerning these matters--PL
Z make sense of all of this?
What are my rights?
What are my options?
And finally what at this point what should I be focusing my attention on-- i.e doing with my time??
Thank you for reading this and thanks for any responses
-J-(aka-itchylixx)
Teens a dog and 2 cats.. I moved in in early to mid November but did not start paying rent until December 1. 2011. The choice for me to reside in
Am in the basement was for the purpose of discretion ~~~she did not feel comfortable with her kids and ex-husband(actually they are not legally
Devorced-- separated for 7 years)
When I first moved in with her she suggested we try it for a month or 2 before I established this as my place of residence - to make sure it would
Be a good situation 4 both of us and the rest of the family.
I have since moved quite a few of my belongings-- including some 30 computers 6 guitars ,amplifyer, home computer recording studio, art work ,
Supplies,bed, TV, Xbox ,etc invested a great deal of time and effort in making my "space" and the rest of the basement inhabitable--for me as well
As for anyone else that might want too use some gym equipment in the back of the basement... or look for something stored in various areas of the
Basement( I organized that stuff too)-- I am to this day still working on this "Project.
.
I dont know how much to include in this question- because i dont know what is legally relevant.EXample:Soon after i moved in she quit her job-
collected unemployment, got charged with a 3rd DWI charge and another conviction of driving with a suspended liscense.Issues like this have drained
me finacially and emotionally --and created friction between us-- but we have always managed to keep things civil and maintain the friendship part--
the relationship and the resulting intimacy is on again off again.I think its off at the moment..lol The point being that i have committed to and
been much more than just a tenent. I have loaned/ given her money, taken care of the animals- house maintnance, drove her and her kids everyday for a
month when b4 she got a temporary , to work and AA meetings only liscense-- etc, etc, etc.
In the last couple of month she finally gained employement and makes quite a bit of money-() 100,00+) However, she has so many financial issues
relating to the recent convictions and depts and overdue payments-- from overdue taxes to late fees on just about every thing and of course the
insane cost of raising to spoiled children.
Here is where my problem and question/s come in -- finally!! sorry for the verbage!! thx 4 your patience.
2 weeks ago she announced that her "ex"husband was moving back in to help her with the kids , house maintence and bills, and possibly ready the
property for sale. In short even thought there is a guest room where he resides when on his days with kids,etc. Allegedly his appartment building is
going up for sale and he needs to move his belongs here soon.. IN short she expects me to move out with my belongings by
december 1st..
Personally I feel this is not in anyway shape or form a reasonable or just. I have been on disability(DEprssion, anxiety,etc) since 2002. My
disability has extended to the realm of the physical for the last year+ due to a herneated disk in lower back- and debilitating general lower back
pain that has been a real problem for the last 4 months..With a combination of pain meds( non-opiate)i can get work done in 20 to 30 minute segments
with stretching and sitting breaks in between- the pain gets so bad i have to stop and rest.In addition to this my left arm which was severly broken
2 years ago, has healed wrong and is only about 70 percent functional-- if that.
Obviously due to my mental and emotional health-- I feel like a deer in front of headlights with the clock ticking .
For my disability i recieve only 690$ a month- 400 of which goes immediately to "rent" I have no car. No extra income- no community of peers to turn
to for help
I have however become aware of general legal issues from people who have had personal experience with thi, including my therapist who often deals
with clients that have had these issues.
The general consensis is that the laws in Maryland heavily favor my position and assesment that in reality it will take much more than just a month
to legally "evict" me.
It was also told me that because there is no lease, my position as a member of this household has been established-- I get mail here, I have all of
My belongings here, etc. Also, as of December 1,2012 it will be 1 year since I began paying rent-- as I said before I was practically living here
Through most of NOvember-- which extends the period of notification I need to 2 months. I do not consider her my landlord. I pay a certain
Amount each month make my financial contribution as a member of this household..
Possession is 9/10 of the law I was told-- which was translated to mean in my case -- since I was given not only access to the basement but also
Access to the rest of the house-- to go about the business of daily living-- in other words this is part my home in a practical sense--- Landlord
Tenant laws do not universally apply-- to the point-- I have been told by several people that I could drag this out for as long as I needed to acquire
Another place to live.
By the way she has given me no written notice or any legal document informing me to vacate..
I apologize again for the length of this post, and any errors--typos,grammar, spelling, etc..
I do intend to seek legal advise asap.. I am comforted a bit by what others have said in regards to my position but as with any advice you take it with
A grain of salt...
It wassuggested that it would be in both mine and her best interest to sit down and come up with a plan that was good for both of us..
I really don't want the conflict, drama, etc and would prefer this route or something like it... However, I will fight if I have to. I do not feel
That it it is ethically or legally correct for her to quickly get rid of me , now that it is more convenient to have her ex here in this basement.
Will somebody who is familiar with actual Maryland laws and policies concerning these matters--PL
Z make sense of all of this?
What are my rights?
What are my options?
And finally what at this point what should I be focusing my attention on-- i.e doing with my time??
Thank you for reading this and thanks for any responses
-J-(aka-itchylixx)