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raymen123
Nov 2, 2012, 10:35 PM
My girl and I been together for over year and one day she stopped returning my text and my phone calls. Then finally she said she wants to take a break and does not want to be in a relationship but never said why but she said she still loves me.

Only get to see her 3 times month. We live 2 1/2 hours away from each other so I'm confused how should I take this?? Now that we are on a break she does not want to see me or return my text or calls! So what should I do?? I'm very much in love with her.

joypulv
Nov 3, 2012, 12:00 AM
All I can say is this: LDRs rarely work out. Chances are she has met someone else and isn't sure about it yet, but has fallen out of love with you. She owes you something better than just 'I want a break' of course, but many people say that to avoid drama and tears, and there's no police, judge and jury to force her to tell you the truth. You must just accept the fact that it's over for real, and get on with your life, painfully at first, but we all go through it.

raymen123
Nov 3, 2012, 10:06 AM
She had invited to go to a halloween party with her and some friends the whole night seemed as if nothing happened we danced, took pics holding each other we kissed and even had an intimate night. The next day she said we are still on a break I'm so damn confused??

BigBaggage
Nov 3, 2012, 10:15 AM
Next time when she invites you to go out, tell her that you're busy, like, you going to go to the gym or something, even if you're actually staying indoors.

She needs to feel how much it can suck without you. Because imagine it like this.
She invites u to a party, u say that you've got other plans. She will still go there, and then there are two things that can happen:

1) She will start to think and wish u were there.

2) She will be able to have fun without you, without even having a single thought about you. And you know what that means.

She wants a break. Give her a break. Dance by her rules.

raymen123
Nov 3, 2012, 11:29 AM
Next time when she invites you to go out, tell her that you're busy, like, you gonna go to the gym or something, even if you're actually staying indoors.

She needs to feel how much it can suck without you. Because imagine it like this.
She invites u to a party, u say that youve got other plans. She will still go there, and then there are two things that can happen:

1) She will start to think and wish u were there.

2) She will be able to have fun without you, without even having a single thought about you. And you know what that means.

She wants a break. Give her a break. Dance by her rules.


Also their's this guy who is a friend of hers who wanted to get with her and she used to talk to before her and I got together and he used to try to convince her not to get with me and this is what she told me. I know they are still friends my gut tells me he has something to do with it like putting things in her head because her and I had our downs and ups and she talks to him about it not too long ago I saw the text messages in her phone saying to her I wish you where still here and bunch of crap.. what should I do??

BigBaggage
Nov 3, 2012, 11:41 AM
If they've been talking before you got together, and if there was something happening between them, you and her wouldn't be together. She would be with him.

If you're really concerned, you need to ask the guy what's his business.

I don't want to give you any bad thoughts, but their past is also unexplored so you don't know if there was anything between them before you got together.
Or maybe he's just a friend-zoned jealous guy.

talaniman
Nov 3, 2012, 09:43 PM
Leave this girl alone my friend and give her what she has asked for and don't make a pest of yourself because she obviously doesn't love you and wants to play the field and have her fun. Let her and make yourself scarce.

Sometimes in love and romance we become an option instead of a priority. Have your own life,your own fun, without her.

Being dumped sucks and stings for a while, but we do move beyond it. Keep your dignity, and self respect by cutting her from your life. She doesn't deserve being a priority, and has become a bad option for love, romance, and fun.

Happens all the time but still sucks. Sorry you had to learn the hard way.