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Brandonnn
Oct 30, 2012, 08:22 PM
Okay so my girlfriend has been ignoring me lately I try to talk to her ask her what's wrong but nothing seems to catch her attention... Just last week this is what I got from her (I need you... I'm sorry for the way Ive been treating you. I thought I was going to come to the skating ring and find a guy, I'm not even going to lie. But I remembered how good you were to me and I forgot everything but you. Babe I'm sorry for everything... Love you!! But I don't know how I'm going to go all weekend without you. You mean the world to me and I would never be the same without you. Can we start over? Pretend none of this happened okay? I don't want to lose you!! I freaking love you!! (: <3).

Yea that's what I got from her. That was last weekend it's Oct 30 and today in class she TEXTED me and said she wanted to take a break it was after my football practice when she texted which is in the morning and I can get pretty nervous and anxious over stuff like this it's not like I've been treating her bad I asked her if it was something that I've done for her to say she wants a break. She said no she said we can get back together in a couple days which I don't think that'll happen I think I'm her plan be and that the guy she's after says no then she'll come back to me if he says yes she's dumping me but I'm too attached to let her go now... If I where to see another guy on her I would hit that guy in the mouth as hard as I could and just walk away I don't really have bad anger issues but when I get worked up someone's either on the ground or I'm on the ground which ever way I'm not going down without a fight. In football practice today I'm the running back the guy next to the QB and I was running the ball like every play anyway this guy on my team like to get cheap shots in I was running the ball I cut in and plowed over him next play he stepped on my hand cut blocked me messed up my knee and then when we were both on the ground he wouldn't get up finally I threw him off grabbed the football and smashed him in the head with it that just because I bottle up everything till I explode

Rissarooo
Nov 1, 2012, 06:54 PM
Hey hun, I feel so bad for you. And I hate to break it to you but she is just using you as a back up. You deserve the best and to be treated like the best, so I would advise you to say no to her, take a nice long break from girls and focus on being you and having fun while being single! And if you find someone who makes you happy in the mix then you are golden :) don't let girls use u, it's wrong and they only do it so that they always have someone. Remember your feelings matter and if she's running around with other guys she's not worth your time.

dontknownuthin
Nov 1, 2012, 07:12 PM
OK - a couple of issues here. First, this girl is toxic for you. She's toying with your emotions. This is what we used to call "keeping a boy on the line" when I was young. A girl would try to keep a guy interested, while she shopped for someone she wanted more. Then she'd break up with the first guy, and usually, repeat the process with the new guy. Guys do this too. This girl is playing the field and doesn't have the maturity to be committed to you, nor to even be clear and honest and say, "I don't want to be tied to you - I want to see who else might be out there for me to date". That's what she wants, but she wants to keep you, too. If you are OK with dating this girl while she also dates other boys, fine. It sounds like you're not, so break up with her and move on. Don't be mad at her - you are both new to this dating thing, and it's not easy to even know our own feelings. Just remain friendly but break up.

The other issue is your anger. Why would you hit some other unsuspecting guy in the mouth if your girlfriend gave them the impression she is free to date them? It's not the guy's fault. You will date girls who have prior boyfriends - would it be appropriate for those guys to come hit YOU in the mouth? Of course not. So, no retribution. Break up with her, and let her date who she wants, and you date who you want, and just keep it friendly and peaceful.

As for your actions on the field when you were angry, very unsportsman like. You need to keep a cool head on the playing field and be honorable in the game.

I have a close friend who is 50 now. He's been in a wheelchair since he was 16. He was a rugby player. An angry hothead took a cheap shot at my friend which resulted in a broken neck. My friend is a quadrapalegic. He has never married, never had children, has to have an aid 24 hours a day. His parents lives were changed forever. His brother's lives and world changed forever in that moment. All because another athlete brought his personal anger onto the field. And the guy who did this, his life was ruined by the guilt. He has never gotten over what he did - it's been over 30 years and he's still devastated.

I would recommend you get some help with managing anger, and also get some perspective on dating. If you are dating a girl and she's not on the same page with you on how committed and exclusive you're going to be, then break up with her and move on. That's the point of dating. You can skip all the drama if you know it will be disappointing, because she's not lived up to your hopes and expectations and it's a big letdown, but it's not the end of the world. There are other girls, and when the time is right you'll meet the right one. That rarely happens in high school.

Brandonnn
Nov 15, 2012, 08:46 PM
Okay first of all thank you two who decided to take the time to answer this question for me:) I told her (in a polite way) that I'm done and I don't want you to bring me down to where I have anger issues anyway her new boyfriend was there when I said this and me and him are friends. When I told her this she said that's fine with me I never loved you, you a worthless piece of and then she turned around and started making out with her new boyfriend I stood there for a second about to beat a :D (not literal) but then I stopped myself and said to her new boyfriend "she's all yours she'll just use you like she did to me" and Just walked away not looking back now it's awkward in the hall I have tried to talk to her just to say hi or how are you but nothing she ignores me she won't even look at me when she says something to me and when she does its always " you" and I politely reply "good to see you too" with a big smile on my face because it amuses me that she does that haha but oh we'll I did try to please her and make her feel good about her self try to talk to her when she doesn't want to ask her what's wrong when ever she would ignore me but oh well I've pretty much settled my anger issues and it's like as soon as I told her that it was over I didn't grind my teeth when ever I saw her hugging other guys now I make a joke out of it instead when I see that as I walk by I say to the guy "be careful" and teah thank you two who replyed to my thing and I am now talking to girls with a higher maturity level that are committed sooooo yea umm I'm not angry all the time I'm mostly happy I catch myself smileying for no reason I can finally make jokes about stupid and everybody gets a good laugh and all my friends mostly girls tell me there happy I dropped her and stopped letting her weigh me down because I used to be mad but now I'm just happy okay I'm done now bye:)

Zealous1
Nov 19, 2012, 04:03 AM
I think you should push this girl away from you. She obviously doesn't really love you, or she wouldn't be acting like this. Don't waste your time on her. She is the type of girl who messes up guys lives all of her life. She will jump from one guy to another, cheat on guys, even leave bf's for another guy. She is not marriage material, and honestly, is acting like a fuk-slut tramp. Don't waste another minute of your time, don't waste your thoughts on her, don't put any more energy into her. You deserve WAY MORE.