Ok so...

I am 27. I have a 5 yr old fulltime raised alone since I was pregnant no dad, no family, no child support.

I just found out after an awful abusive relationship I am pregnant...

I could not bare to think of this man raising my son or daughter with the thoughts of it is okay to hit and abuse women, for that matter laying a hand on my child makes me sick...

I am about 5 months along... Yes I just found out. No I didn't know. No I never have symptoms. Yes I was using condoms. No my periods have be irregular since I was 16...

I am not currently in the right living situations safe for a newborn. I sleep on a single mattress on a floor in a guest room with a sliding door... My car is in the $$$$ of fixing and I couldn't bare to think of getting stuck anywhere with either my daughter or unborn baby...

I have tried getting jobs and knowing I'm pregnant refuse to hire me. So I resort to cleanning homes just trying to support myself and my daughter.

Please don't look down on me or give me a lecture all I need is help... Either with a job, my 89 Honda accord lxi, or if it comes to adoption of my unborn baby I will appreciate anything.

Any numbers, help, advice, etc is greatly appreciated...

Thank you.
Warmly,

Michelle

We are here to help and support you. We do not send money, we are not an adoption agency.

Do you get support from the father of your 5 year old? What is your location? Have you considered adoption?

Did you not fully read before you replied? If this is what to expect I will delete this post.

Are you in the US?

Are you in the US?

Yes I'm in the united states

Are you willing to pack up some clothes and move into a shelter with your child?

Did you not fully read before you replied?

Yes, I read before I replied.

Are you receiving child support? Are you interested in adoption?

I understand your pregnancy. I was also 5 months before I found out I was pregnant. I do understand your dilemma.

I will judge slightly, since the abusive man was OK to live with and sleep with for a period, And I assume at the first abuse you did not leave. And yes you choose to have sex with him, making him a OK person to have a child with at that time, by your choice.

So no, you can arrange adoption for the child, or you go to court and get child support for first child and also get child support for new child. You file and get custody of the child, being poor does not stop you from getting custody.

If there is a record of abuse, * how many times did you call the police and have him arrested for abuse? ** if there is no record, there is no evidence for court to prove his abuse.

So yes he may get visitation, but then will he actually use the visits ?