View Full Version : Should I quit my company for my Boyfriend/Fiance?
samantha6266
Oct 25, 2012, 10:10 AM
I have owned my business for almost 8 years. I have never made a ton of money in my industry. The most I make is $4k mo as of the past 2 years. However, business is hurting and I have not gotten paid in 3 months. At the looks of things I will not get paid for another 2 months. I have burned through my savings. But my company has a tendency to hurt the first 3 months sept-December.
His brother became my partner as of 4 years ago. And his entire family knows me except for his mom. I am pretty close with everyone. We all work out of the same office. My BF also works for his brother. However, My boyfriend hates that all his brothers/ cousins can call me anytime and all his friends/coworkers call me all the time (Work related stuff). No one knows that we date and we are even in the process on getting married. However, he does not want them to be so close to his new future wife or his wife when we get married.
He asked me to quit my job. But I am unsure what to do. I feel like I've tried long enough for the company and honestly he makes me so very happy. I really love him. We were friends for 3 years before we started dating. And he is an amazing BF. I love him with all my heart and for the first time in my life I have experienced real true love. Ive been in other relationships before and no guy comes close in comparison.
What are your thoughts? PS. Im 28
tickle
Oct 25, 2012, 01:11 PM
Go for the happiness Samantha !
Homegirl 50
Oct 25, 2012, 02:05 PM
You are in the process of getting married yet no one in his family knows you are dating? What is going to be the reason for that to his family?
How old is the man?
Do you want to give up your company or are you doing this for him? This sounds crazy to me. He does not like that his family talks to you, what's up with that?
Sounds like he has issues to me.
tickle
Oct 25, 2012, 02:16 PM
If you no longer think your company is making money, and you can't put any more of your time into it, and you are happy with him, regardless of his family, just do what you want to be happy.
Cat1864
Oct 25, 2012, 02:56 PM
I have owned my business for almost 8 years. I have never made a ton of money in my industry. The most I make is $4k mo as of the past 2 years. However, business is hurting and I have not gotten paid in 3 months. At the looks of things I will not get paid for another 2 months. I have burned through my savings. But my company has a tendency to hurt the first 3 months sept-December.
His brother became my partner as of 4 years ago. And his entire family knows me except for his mom. I am pretty close with everyone. We all work out of the same office. My BF also works for his brother. However, My boyfriend hates that all his brothers/ cousins can call me anytime and all his friends/coworkers call me all the time (Work related stuff). No one knows that we date and we are even in the process on getting married. However, he does not want them to be so close to his new future wife or his wife when we get married.
He asked me to quit my job. But I am unsure what to do. I feel like ive tried long enought for the company and honestly he makes me so very happy. I really love him. We were friends for 3 years before we started dating. And he is an amazing BF. I love him with all my heart and for the first time in my life I have experienced real true love. Ive been in other relationships before and no guy comes close in comparison.
What are your thoughts? PS. Im 28
So much seems 'not right' in this story.
For clarification:
You own the business with a partner.
Your partner is your boyfriend's brother. What is his stake in the business?
Your boyfriend works for his brother. Doesn't that mean he works for you, too?
Everyone with exception of his mother in his family know you and call you about business.
Who works in the same office?
Who takes care of the finances for the company and makes major decisions?
Who doesn't know you are dating or getting married?
Did you know your boyfriend before he started working for 'his brother'?
Is his brother, your partner, getting paid? Is he getting paid? Do they have other jobs?
I don't think there is way for you to just quit and walk away unless there is something you have left out. You have to dissolve the partnership. Preferably by your partner buying you out or selling your interest in the business to another party (your boyfriend?). What are your legal obligations in this partnership?
I think you need to come back down to Earth and take a good hard look at reality and the business and the people working for and with you. Something isn't adding up and I hope it isn't your accounting books. You need to talk to a lawyer versed in business law before you make any irreversible decisions.