FTP
Mar 10, 2007, 11:14 PM
Dear People
I recently found a friend that I had not seen for several years due to a misunderstanding plus age difference, currently late 20’s and 30’s. At one time we were alumni’s together. Didn’t realized how much I missed and cared about him till I saw him again. I inquired if he was married or had a relationship with anyone in which he stated he was single as was I. I found it ironic that either of us after all this time had actually found someone special in our lives yet.
Started to hang out with him things went rather quickly and in a short period and I slept with him. Something told me to slow down and that I couldn’t expect this person to feel the same way after all these years, things changed, both had changed. I figured since neither of us had a commitment with anyone there was nothing wrong with it.
Soon after I started to suspect that he was not thinking the same way about our friendship when I noticed his eyes looking at other people while in my company. Then finally one time I found a love tag on his neck and this is when I decided it was time to come clean and lay the cards on the table.
He confessed that he had been screwed over by other relationships and friends in the monetary sense. He felt he had to start over and as a male felt incompetent because he had nothing to offer anyone therefore was incapable of giving anything to anyone. He did however express that he did value our friendship. Meanwhile I must confess it hurt and although I wished he would fall for me; I value our friendship more than anything in this world. We still hand out and have lots of fun when we are together. But I can’t help to still hope that this friendship could develop into something more meaningful. I would like to continue and find out but I do not want to set myself up for failure or disappointment nor want to be disrespected with Mr. wondering eye. I find it to be a sign of disrespect when you are spending time with the opposite sex whether it is a friend or especially a loved one and that type of behavior is going on. Is there potential or am I kidding myself?
Sincerely don’t want to give up that easy
I recently found a friend that I had not seen for several years due to a misunderstanding plus age difference, currently late 20’s and 30’s. At one time we were alumni’s together. Didn’t realized how much I missed and cared about him till I saw him again. I inquired if he was married or had a relationship with anyone in which he stated he was single as was I. I found it ironic that either of us after all this time had actually found someone special in our lives yet.
Started to hang out with him things went rather quickly and in a short period and I slept with him. Something told me to slow down and that I couldn’t expect this person to feel the same way after all these years, things changed, both had changed. I figured since neither of us had a commitment with anyone there was nothing wrong with it.
Soon after I started to suspect that he was not thinking the same way about our friendship when I noticed his eyes looking at other people while in my company. Then finally one time I found a love tag on his neck and this is when I decided it was time to come clean and lay the cards on the table.
He confessed that he had been screwed over by other relationships and friends in the monetary sense. He felt he had to start over and as a male felt incompetent because he had nothing to offer anyone therefore was incapable of giving anything to anyone. He did however express that he did value our friendship. Meanwhile I must confess it hurt and although I wished he would fall for me; I value our friendship more than anything in this world. We still hand out and have lots of fun when we are together. But I can’t help to still hope that this friendship could develop into something more meaningful. I would like to continue and find out but I do not want to set myself up for failure or disappointment nor want to be disrespected with Mr. wondering eye. I find it to be a sign of disrespect when you are spending time with the opposite sex whether it is a friend or especially a loved one and that type of behavior is going on. Is there potential or am I kidding myself?
Sincerely don’t want to give up that easy