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Bluntress
Oct 11, 2012, 12:23 AM
My boyfriend and I only have sex every few days and during my period, sex is pushed down the list. He spends most of his free time playing "Magic" and I've picked it up to spend time with him. He doesn't come on to me anymore and it might have been it has proven moot to my mood swings. If I don't feel like it, nothing will change my mind. He just seems to occupy his time until I do, but it has gotten me to feel lonely even when he's home. :/ I don't feel like we cuddle as much or talk to each other as much.

Fr_Chuck
Oct 11, 2012, 02:34 AM
Men are not really into cuddle or snuggle, esp if there is not a chance of sex latter. Sorry they are wired that way. If you have said no and no and no, enough times, he will just stop asking. Since he feels that you just don't want it.

With that said, not knowing your ages, but sex every few days is about average for most people.

But yes, enough no's and guys will stop asking, they wait for you to come on to them.

Bluntress
Oct 11, 2012, 10:13 AM
Men are not really into cuddle or snuggle, esp if there is not a chance of sex latter. Sorry they are wired that way. If you have said no and no and no, enough times, he will just stop asking. Since he feels that you just don't want it.

With that said, not knowing your ages, but sex every few days is about average for most people.

But yes, enough no's and guys will stop asking, they wait for you to come on to them.

My fear is that what if I never do or I don't do it enough for his sex drive and his mind wonders to other women? I remember I used to have sex a lot with my first boyfriend when I was younger, but lately, I am nearing my mid 20s so I'm still young, but I just don't have the sex drive anymore. And he can't wrap his head around that fact that I love him, but I just don't feel like doing it. So if he doesn't even try to seduce me despite my refusals, then will we ever have sex? And since he just waits now, while he's waiting, he'll just play "Magic" or "Guild Wars 2." That's not sexy nor romantic. I will never be turned on with that. But of course, it's my fault if I don't want sex because since he's a guy, he's ready all the time without any assistance.