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obrien433
Oct 10, 2012, 12:12 PM
So my guy friend and I were cleaning up after a party, still pretty drunk. He suddenly confesses that he's liked me since he first saw me, and that when he saw my for the first time he thought I was the most gorgeous girl he had ever met. I (as most drunk girls I think) was thrilled to hear this, because I had had a little bit of a crush on him for a while and kissed him. A lot. I ended up going back to his place and slept with him that night. In the morning I asked him if he still felt the same way as he did last night (now that he was sobered up) and he said that he did still, but that he'd just gotten out of a relationship that had suffocated him and couldn't commit to me for the time being. He's texted me that he's really glad that night happened and that he really likes me but I feel like I'm getting played. I can't tell if he honestly likes me or if he is manipulating the fact that I like him, and if it's the latter I really need to assess whether I can handle staying friends with this person. Obviously part of me keeps hoping that he really does like me and just isn't ready but I really just need some honest opinions to help me out if anyone can.

backpack2389
Oct 10, 2012, 12:20 PM
From your description of the situation, I think it's very possible that he's being completely honest with you. It seems like his feelings are genuine and while he was drunk he had the courage or lack of self control to confess those feelings. He was very possibly holding back on saying something previously because he is an emotional mess from a bad relationship and breakup (as he told you).

From my limited perspective, I think he's sincere. Just give him a chance to sort out his feelings about his prior relationship before entering into one with you. You don't want to take things any further until you both know how you feel and what you want. Otherwise, someone will get hurt even worse.

0rphan
Oct 10, 2012, 02:47 PM
He sounds like a pretty honest guy to me... they say drink usually tells the truth.
I do think that probably he didn't mean things to happen quite like they did but he was glad that they happened and didn't come out with all the usual excuses.

I feel that you must play it cool - no pressure,he has just come out of a relationship,so will be feeling quite hurt I imagine right now,also he will be happy that he has someone to confide in who he can talk to and obviously likes a lot.

I think you should just carry on as normal, be yourself,don't constantly text him over this if you can help it - he will see that as pushing for answers which right now he doesn't know himself and it might even push him further away.

Be the friend to him you've always been... the person that he says he likes,I am sure eventually things will work out naturally between the both of you if given the chance.

I wish you luck.