Hello,

I have just been dumped by my girlfriend of 7 years! I met her at uni when I was 19 she was 20. But she has change a lot since then and we both have had are ups and downs but we got through it! There have been times when we both nearly broke up and thinking back really wished we had.

She always wanted to live together and in the my final year at uni we did. She had finished a year before me. So she started looking for jobs but with no luck and as most people know you can get very depressed. This is what happened with her, with her having only me to really talk to this was really getting to her stressed and not nice for me and got be on edge, we had big arguments over nothing, the problem was her not having a job and no friends. When my final year was nearing ending we talked about having a break and see what happens but we didn't.

We still had to move out of the flat and I told her "look, you can get you old job back and feel better about stuff" We both move back with our parents and mine were in Spain. This was for me because it was not right for me to be out there, having the only contact with was with my parents and her when she came over. It did help that she came out and I felt better and with knew I had to leave! I went to London and started an internships with to TV company's.

This was great! I was living with a good group of mates having a great time, while she would come up and see me. Once in my life I was really happy a just living life! Well, that was that and it ended me and her were still together though we had a few ups and downs but we got through it! Things got a little harder when I had to move out of the flat I was staying in! I found a flat but it was in the wrong place of where I wanted to be. The people in the flat were OK and we went out but remember I was on these internships so not really getting paid much! Thought me and her still were together and happy. We had suggest living together but just wasn't the right time and by this time see was asking about the M word, marriage, it just wasn't the wright time! Anyway this ended and so had the internship. I had to go back to my parents who had come back from Spain and were now living in the UK.

This again was hard for me because where my parents were living was a four hour train ride form my ex. I went up to see her but not as much because I didn't have access to a car all the time, without this around her area there was nothing much to do! I tried to find work down around my parents but with no luck and I was again finding it very hard once again.

This again this helped by seeing her now and again. As you might of guessed I don't have any real mates because of all this moving around and not being in a place long enough. I then found out that with the few mates that I have been able to keep in touch with one called me and told me that one of his flat mates was moving out so jumped at the chance, this meant I was only 45min train ride away from her!

Things started well I got a job and was living with a mate and really close to her and even were talking about moving in together but the jobs did not last and same thing happened again three more times. At this point I was feeling pretty low and angry with stuff! My ex on the other hand had been trying to get into teaching and needing to get on a course first! This was hard for her but she got on it! Just at this time when I had been fired from perfect dream job. I was gutted!

After this things got even worse my dad got cancer and still has! I am and still don't know how to come to terms with it! Though my now ex girlfriend help, and not having a job or any mates and my dad having cancer I felt and so down but I thought that me and her would move in and go into the city! But this did not happen because of me no being able to find work and my life falling down I got angry and stressed at her for not understanding what I was going through! While this was happing she was had started her course and got to know some knew people! But we were still OK .

Then only recently went for a meal and had the best day I have had in a long time! I thought that even though I had problems I had my best friend to rely on. She was even crying on the train when she had to go home and then the last weekend we saw each other I got to stressed but she then started talking about not knowing what to do about us and I said I wanted to make it work she seem OK about this we then had a little argument in her car because she had just started driving and was worrying about getting her work done but we made up and when I had to leave she was crying when I had to go home! And then only now a few weekend ago when we were supposed to meet up for the weekend instead I said one little thing two days before the weekend about nothing and she said I think we need to end us and I think I will be better for both of us .Now I feel more low and depressed than ever and don't understand why she did a 180 on me and now wants nothing to do with me and just wants move on

My question is why did she change her mind so quickly about us and even though we have broken up I thought she would be understanding of situation with having no mates no job (she did say it wasn't about not having a job but don't believe this) and my dad having cancer so why is she is being so hard on me?? Any thoughts aappreciate it

Thanks