So. I don't know how to start this. Me and my guy we are in early 20's.and been dating for more than a year now. We've had our share of fights and everything. But everything changed since April'12. He had lied to me about something big which even resulted in us almost breaking up. But since I couldn't let him go I forgave him and we were together.

But since then everything has changed. He has changed. He is less of a sweet person as he was. Texts less we talk less meet less and sometimes when I try to make things normal he doesn't help. :( He was a really swell guy treated me like a princess but now whenever I try to talk to him about past all he does us flip out and asks me to let go off the past. Most of the time whenever I call him or anything his number is busy. Earlier I didn't care but gradually when I realized that and tried to talk to him about it he said I don't trust him and all. When I text him he doesn't reply. It makes me sad. And I cry almost every day to sleep

This all has made me think maybe I am a bad person and all. Earlier I used to think he needed space but it has been over 6 months like this. Maybe it's my fault I am so attached to him but I don't want to let him go I love him. :(.. I am so hurt I don't even know if he is into me.

If he wants to be like that let him and do not think you are a bad person at all ! You should want to think that he is missing out on someone special like youu.

You've been together over a year and he's been like this for over 6 months. That's half of your relationship. He also lied to you about something big, and now he treats you like crap. I'd understand 3 weeks of being like this if something was up, but nothing can excuse over 6 months of acting like he doesn't care. There are issues on both sides - he thinks you don't trust him, he doesn't seem to care very much, and you feel awful. End it! You'll meet so many other people that will make you feel great.

Maybe you need a closer more objective look at this guy and see if the sweet fellow he was is the real him. Talk about it,as maybe something has changed and you need to know about it.

You well could be too attached. More than he is at least.

I tried talking to him about everything but like I said he flips out and get mad at me. And I really don't know if he loves me and all. Most of the time I know he lies to me. I don't really know what wrong did I do. When I try and tell him how he is ignoring me, he says I am making him feel like a bad person. When I am not. :(

He lies to you, flips out and makes you feel bad. DUMP HIM! You need to be able to communicate with a partner.

You don't need to have done anything wrong for him to be a bad boyfriend. And talaniman is right, the first few months of a relationship you only see a person's extra happy good side. Then later you learn about how moody and uncommunicative they are! Heh.

I'm sorry to make a joke of it. You're asking for advice on something that seems as clear as day. The basic facts are enough to know you're unhappy in this relationship. Whether you go on to become single, or get with someone else, you're going to be happier than you are now being lied to and ignored. Good luck.

I know you all would be probably thinking I am crazy and all but I don't really know if I can leave him. I love him. :/ I don't know if we will be what we were before

Here's the problem as I see it: you don't want to let him go, but you won't let the horrible thing he did go. You have to, or you will lose him, if you haven't already. If the past just keeps welling up inside you and out your mouth, then go see a therapist or unload on a friend instead. You can't have it both ways.

To let go of the past is difficult. Its been 6 months.

We know how difficult it is to let go but unless you stop ALL contact with him and rebuild a life that makes you happy without him, you will remain STUCK.

So today I talked it out with him. I told him how I don't feel like I'm his priority and how he makes me feel unloved. We fought and he asked me to leave him. And admist all this he made me feel it was my fault. I don't know what wrong did I do.

Its not you being wrong for standing up and expressing YOURSELF, its him not acknowledging it that's wrong. Let the emotional dust settle, and see what happens when the facts sink in.

Feel no guilt, because there is NONE!! Not on your part!

Ill try that.. thanx and lets hope for the best

You are NOT a bad person and this is not your fault!
He's the one making you feel bad, he's the one who lied and hurt you, and keeps on hurting you...
You deserve MORE!! I know it's difficult because you love him and depend on him, but I think the best thing to do right now is take some time off from him. Stop texting him, stop calling him, stop seeing him. See how you feel.

I don't know what to do. Maybe something is wrong with me. I can't really without him but I don't think if he cares anymore. I wake up early hoping he would talk to me he doesn't talk, I text him he doesn't reply then he is on Facebook. I really didn't mind earlier but this is what is happening everyday now. When I ask him why he didn't text he says he was getting late when I know he is lieing so I just drop it. And this happens all the TIME not just mornings. I am gettig tired of this . I am confused. I don't know I mean what will I do without him.

Stop texting him, and checking his Facebook, and you won't have false hope and be lied too!