My boyfriend and I been together for 2 years. First few months we were together I had bad habits and he asked me to stop doing a lot of those things. I had stopped doing things that made me happy and I liked very much to respect his wishes. I knew he was unhappy with my habits. So I stopped as soon as I could for him so he could be happy even though I wanted desperately to go back to those things.. I respected him and his wishes because I cared for him very much. Well, I just wish he could do the same. He has a porn problem. I have a problem with porn. It makes me feel uncomfortable due to my past, and so now I feel upset, hurt and very disrespected. I told him how it made me feel and He says he doesn't need it, and that he hasn't done it in awhile blah blah.. I trusted him and moved on. So I came across it.. I don't even know how many times In A month! But every time I try to believe him when he says he hasn't, I just get disappointed. He lies about the stupidest things. I really wouldn't be so upset if he told me the truth and was straight up with me. But it became an issue. I thought he could give this one thing up for me and respect me. But he hasn't. His cousin told me that it is a 'guy' thing. That sounded so childish and stupid! They aren't teenagers Anymore.. they need to grow up! Yes, they like women, but do they have to act like pigs.. no! Guy thing or not.. it is still disrespectful if your partner really doesn't want you to because she is uncomfortable. My boyfriend said he wanted to be the man I deserve, then what's holding him back? A real man does not disrespect his partner, lie, or be unfaithful. A real man would care about his partner, respect her as she does to him. If he really cares he would stop. Yes, it'd be hard but I gave up everything for my boyfriend and I still get disrespected. But he says to trust him and he really is trying to be what I need. I'm working on trusting him when I know I shouldn't. If the girl really doesn't like the habit, and he knows how she feels, then he should respect her. Why hurt her? Why sneak it and make her uncertain to trust you anymore? Why make her feel bad about herself and uncomfortable? Why even be with her if you can't be man enough to treat her like she needs? No its not her fault she feels that way. It just happens. If the guy really truly cares and he respects her.. then there shouldn't be a problem stopping when you have a girl who obviously cares and loves you. Who is dying to feel wanted and loved. No porn or any other sort of addiction should be worth making your partner hurt and suffer. Have a heart. Why is it worth hurting someone?

Why are you asking us why he watches porn? Why are you preaching at us? How would we know why he won't respect your wishes?

If you have talked to him about your past, asked him what's missing in your sex life, told him how you feel hurt, and still aren't getting anywhere, you LEAVE. You don't change someone who doesn't change himself. Yes, you changed for him (I have no idea what 'bad habits' you gave up) and you love him, but there is no judge or court you can go before to say 'I did this for him and now make him do this for me.' You find someone else.