Can it be that I'm older than my boyfriend he is 21 and I am 30 every time I talk about sex around him he always say I'm cute but deep down inside I'm crying because I need sex I know he always working in everything but what about me sometimes I think that he don't want me anymore but he just don't know how to tell me that he don't want me anymore I'm just so tired of the bull without sex even though he's 21 and I'm 30 I don't know what to do anymore

Um... hhhmmmmm. I believe I understand what you're getting at.

What is his life like? Stressful? Exhausting? Is he taking drugs? Do you know of a reason that his libido would be low?

It sounds like he is just tired from working. Everyone's mind handles work differently.

Perhaps try scheduling sex time for once or twice a week. Schedule it for when he will be rested. And be prepared! Give him something to look forward to.

It's not a good idea to try to work on this or anything else when either one of you are in a low mood. We make best decisions are made when we are in a good mood. Also do not try to analyze your problems from a low mood you will undoubtedly receive false readings and insecure thoughts.

He doesen't love you... just that simple... get on with your life...

Its not that he don't love me he told me today that he is stressing college working bills he told me that I'm the love of he's life and pretty much that he wants to spend his life with me pretty much he trying to say that I'm the only girl that understand him yeah and he said that I'm the only girl that been by his side since day 1 and soon things will start to change I told him that I'm a believer and I'm going to be there for him 1000% because I told I'm that girl

Its not that he don't love me he told me today that he is stressing college working bills he told me that I'm the love of he's life and pretty much that he wants to spend his life with me pretty much he trying to say that I'm the only girl that understand him yeah and he said that I'm the only girl that been by his side since day 1 and soon things will start to change I told him that I'm a believer and I'm going to be there for him 1000% because I told I'm that girl
he doesen't love you ...just that simple.....get on with your life....

he doesen't love you ...just that simple.....get on with your life....

This is coming from a person who took the time to set up an account, post a few times, (bad advice) then never returns.

OP, Craven had asked you some great questions, could you answer them so that we have a better understanding?

Me and my boyfriend been together for almost 3 years I am 31 he is 21 we don't even have sex like we used to when I asked him why we not having sex he always say that he stressing he works he go to school and sex don't usually be on his mind this is so hard I've been faithful to him for 3 years in sex is what I really need but I don't know how to tell him that our relationship need sex involved how can I tell him that I need sex?

I say to myself plenty of time is it wrong for me for taking he's virginity at 19 and I was 28 I really do love this boy a lot but I just don't know how to tell him that I need him and his support sex doesn't mean anything to me as long as I have him I was just curious why he's not having sex with me anymore this is hurting me to the cord I'm going to be that girl and support him 1000% till he's ready to have sex with me again

He's not having sex with you because he is stressed from school, work, and bills. All 3 of those are libido killers. Now you add being needy, and that just makes his libido take a nosedive.

How can you help him make is life less stressful?

I'm 31 my boyfriend is 21 I've been with him for almost 3 years he was the first one to give me his virginity at the beginning of the year we been together we been having lots of sex at the second year we've been together the sex has stopped 2 maybe 3 times out of the year for the past 9 months we have not had sex I asked him all the time is it me he tells me know it's not me it's because he's stressed school work bills half of my heart believe him the other half of my heart doesn't I just want to make my relationship right I really don't want to start thinking that maybe he's having sex with other girls and not having sex with me this is really starting to make our relationship go down bottom I really want to trust him and believe him but at this point right now I just need information about the people that been in my shoes or not can someone please give me the answer or at least help me with the solution please thanks...

Like I said... Stress is a libido killer. He's stressed with work, he's stressed with school, he's stressed with bills. Now he's stressed with you nagging him about sex.

I'll ask this question again. What can you do to help relieve some of his stress?

Please stop opening threads with the same question. They will all be deleted.

Thanks for responding to my message yes his life is stressful he tells me this all the time school work bills family he been through a lot in this past 3 years we been together I try to be his girl in be there for him even though I'm 31 and he is 21 I just want our sex life and our relationship to get back on track because this is really starting to hurt me really bad

So stop nagging him about sex and help him reduce his stress.

There's nothing I can do to help him because every time I try to help him he always jump on another story if he always say things get better things get better I just got to give he time in a chance as soon as things get better things will get better that's is what he keep saying and I just don't know what else to say to him for me to keep nagging him about sex I don't nagging him about sex at all I might come up a few times other than my nagging him about sex I just don't say anything about sex anymore but this is really killing me now in our relationship is really starting to go rock bottom sex it doesn't mean anything to me but I'm just wondering why he's not having sex with me I think it's him it's not me

Can you please repeat that using sentences? It's very hard to understand what you are trying to say without a period here or there.

Yeah maybe you is right maybe I am nagging him about sex just a little yes and you sure is right maybe I need to help him deal with he stress thanks and you answered my question that I've been thinking about as well I just needed someone to just put it out there for me and you help me out a lot with the situation I'm going through and I want to thank you very much for taking your time out sending me a message in for trying to at least understand the situation I'm dealing with. With my boyfriend thank you very much the biggest key question I learned today from you is don't naggong him and don't stress him about sex thanks