Maria1323
Oct 3, 2012, 10:24 AM
Me and my fiancé have been together for 4 years, and live together. He is in the RCMP, and I recently moved across the country to be with him.
He is the kindest, most loving man I've ever known, and treats me like gold.. or he used to.
These past few weeks he's been going through something. It's like he's depressed, I know this is common for police; they can distant themselves from their home and family life. He's been SO close with his friends/co-workers, and seems great at work, but when he's home, he's distant, cold, and not affectionate. I know I've been over reacting a bit.. I argue, get mad at him, cry, and start fights. I know I'm an emotional person, and have been giving him more stress and in turn have made him move farther from me.
A few days ago we had a talk and he admitted to me what he's been feeling, and that's he's unhappy with us. He says he loves me, hates seeing me hurt and wants a break. I refused. I live with him, and a "break" is NOT the solution for mature couples. I am trying to act like everything's fine, give him his space, not argue, be loving and compassionate, and hope that he will start feeling different and see that I LOVE him and that we are in this, through thick and thin.
I need advice. Anyone been through this before? How should I help him feel better and realize that giving up on us is NOT the answer?
Any guys, cops, or wives of cops out there? Or anyone who has been through something similar?
Thanks you.
He is the kindest, most loving man I've ever known, and treats me like gold.. or he used to.
These past few weeks he's been going through something. It's like he's depressed, I know this is common for police; they can distant themselves from their home and family life. He's been SO close with his friends/co-workers, and seems great at work, but when he's home, he's distant, cold, and not affectionate. I know I've been over reacting a bit.. I argue, get mad at him, cry, and start fights. I know I'm an emotional person, and have been giving him more stress and in turn have made him move farther from me.
A few days ago we had a talk and he admitted to me what he's been feeling, and that's he's unhappy with us. He says he loves me, hates seeing me hurt and wants a break. I refused. I live with him, and a "break" is NOT the solution for mature couples. I am trying to act like everything's fine, give him his space, not argue, be loving and compassionate, and hope that he will start feeling different and see that I LOVE him and that we are in this, through thick and thin.
I need advice. Anyone been through this before? How should I help him feel better and realize that giving up on us is NOT the answer?
Any guys, cops, or wives of cops out there? Or anyone who has been through something similar?
Thanks you.