I've broken up with my boyfriend last week... in silence. He's a Westerner and I'm Vietnamese. He is very successful in career, together with many problems. Recently he encountered so many messes, big mess and can't work out. He's afraid he can't give me a happy life, but I don't care about it, I want to be with him. For some last weeks, he never talked to me, even not reply my messages, I know he's in a mess because his Skype status change too often. He just kept silent with me. Last week I sent him an email to say so many things, generally I just want him to decide st better for him and don't bother about me, but I still love him. And he still keep silent. It seems he avoids seeing me, avoid talking to me, wants to make me give up.

The most truly painful goodbye is the one which is never said... I still follow him with every updates, everything he shares public, but I don't dare to text him. In a few days will be his birthday. I'd wish to send him st, or at least send a song... of course not telling the sender. Of course probably he may guess and know that's me.

I want to but I'm confused whether it makes him worse, more hurtful or not. If it does, I'll not do any more. Please help me!

You should better leave him alone... I know a break up in silence is more hurtful because so many things are left unsaid... but believe me... if you really disappear with no try to contact him in any way... or searching for him or keeping an eye over his updates and moves... it will going to bother him a lot... and again don't wish him birthday... not at alll.. not in any way... not even with your hidden identity... no means no... behave like and feel like... he doesn't exist... give yourself time... pamper yourself... do things like to do... he will break his silence himself and for sure... and by the time you have had enough time to think over the entire situation... and know your heart will tell you the right thing... you will not want to be with him... do this

Thank you for your advice. I'll not contact him in any way any more. But I just really can't remove him from my skype list and Facebook either... I'm always afraid that he'll feel more hurtful if suddenly seeing that. I'll try my best to gradually not paying too much attention to him, to his status and his updates. Will try to find some way to do this without having to remove him.