Jefferycraft
Sep 29, 2012, 09:38 PM
First off I'm going to start by saying it was a long distance relationship and I should have known better cause they normally don't work. What's worse is that everything in me was screaming not to do it and just stay friends but anyway here it begins:
So I met this girl online while she was in the process of dating another guy we were just friends at first I noticed something was bothering her and when I asked her about it she said her and her boyfriend were fighting all the time and that he hardly paid any attention to her when they talked. Well I would be nice to her and try to help in any way I could not because I wanted to get with her but because I like to help people anyway one day something seemed like it was bothering her I asked her what was wrong and she said she was falling in love with me and asked me to break her heart because at the time she really loved the other guy. I could not break her heart because I couldn't willingly cause somebody that kind of pain. Anyway she leaves him and get s with me. Everything is going perfect for the first month we had maybe one argument but it worked itself out and we moved on she had been planning on coming down either in the end of July or early August well that didn't happen because her parents said no. Well that's when thing start going down hill she seems depressed all the time and when I ask about it she say she is fine and I would say sometimes talking it out will help but she refuses well the. One day comes and she almost left me because she couldn't understand how I loved her well she decided to come back and things were going well for three weeks then I pointed out that I wanted something and asked her to buy it for me ( she had bought stuff for me in the past and didn't really have a problem with it) she got upset and said something and I got upset because she had said something hurtful so I said something hurtful back well we didn't really talk for the rest of the day she messages me that night to go to bed etc etc next day we are doing OK well and basically for the next three weeks we would argue just about every day well on the tenth of this month I went behind her back to find out what was wrong and I know it was a horrible thing and I shouldn't have done it but that day she said she didn't know if she wanted to be with me anymore And I begged and pleaded for a second chance which she gave me she said one of the things I was doing that was bothering her was constantly messaging her when she wouldn't answer I did it because I was worried about her not because I didn't trust her but because I was worried she might be hurt or something anyway I asked her if I could call that night and she said she diden know I asked again later and she said no and I said " well do you ever want to talk to me on the phone again?" I wasn't trying to be hurtful she got upset and said she needed to think about it well the next day she broke up with me but asked if we could still be friends and said who knows what the future may bring meaning that she may want to get back together and we were doing good as friends up until Tuesday's when I asked her to be brutally honest with me if there was a chance that we could ever get back together and she basically said no and we were good for a little while and then she told me later that day that she needed a few days alone and I agreed and tried to give her a few days but I gave in and sent her an IM this morning and one of her friends later told me to leave her alone well I asked another friend of hers to ask her if she wanted to still be friends and he said he wouldn't do it out of the blue I said OK then she contacted me to tell me to leave him alone I then explained to her how I was feeling then I got this message "Jeff.. Iv been asking u to leave me alone for a few days... U havent.." I asked if I left her alone for a few days if we could still be friends and she said yes I haven't messaged her since. Well I got a message from her friend right after that and he said " I'm not sure" now we promised before we broke up that we would still be friends and we again promised after the break up I have accepted the factthat there will never be another relationship with her and it's OK for her to see new guys I'm now more worried about losing her as a friend what do I do cause I can't just completely cut ties with her I care about her too much to do that I still love her a good bit it was my fault we broke up cause I was hurting her ( I'll provide a list if things she said I did) it's not just me saying that either we have both accepted it so there is no question to why we broke up I just want to know what it means what do I do do I text her back In a week if I don't hear from her what if she never texts me back and leaves me hanging she called me last week and we had a decent conversation then she broke down and cried and said she loved me and missed me, what do I do I don't want to lose her as a friend too?
1. The distance hurt her which caused a lack of sleep
2. The lack of sleep caused her to hurt
3. The little things I would say during an argument hurt her
4. When I would pester her about what was bothering her, that hurt her.
5. When I would pester her about buying thing. That hurt her
6 freaking out when she wouldn't respond hurt her
7. Not being able to see me hurt her
So what do I do I didn't have it in my to break contact with her do I wait for her to text me or do I give it about a week then text her back, I really don't think I could handle losing her as a friend too
So I met this girl online while she was in the process of dating another guy we were just friends at first I noticed something was bothering her and when I asked her about it she said her and her boyfriend were fighting all the time and that he hardly paid any attention to her when they talked. Well I would be nice to her and try to help in any way I could not because I wanted to get with her but because I like to help people anyway one day something seemed like it was bothering her I asked her what was wrong and she said she was falling in love with me and asked me to break her heart because at the time she really loved the other guy. I could not break her heart because I couldn't willingly cause somebody that kind of pain. Anyway she leaves him and get s with me. Everything is going perfect for the first month we had maybe one argument but it worked itself out and we moved on she had been planning on coming down either in the end of July or early August well that didn't happen because her parents said no. Well that's when thing start going down hill she seems depressed all the time and when I ask about it she say she is fine and I would say sometimes talking it out will help but she refuses well the. One day comes and she almost left me because she couldn't understand how I loved her well she decided to come back and things were going well for three weeks then I pointed out that I wanted something and asked her to buy it for me ( she had bought stuff for me in the past and didn't really have a problem with it) she got upset and said something and I got upset because she had said something hurtful so I said something hurtful back well we didn't really talk for the rest of the day she messages me that night to go to bed etc etc next day we are doing OK well and basically for the next three weeks we would argue just about every day well on the tenth of this month I went behind her back to find out what was wrong and I know it was a horrible thing and I shouldn't have done it but that day she said she didn't know if she wanted to be with me anymore And I begged and pleaded for a second chance which she gave me she said one of the things I was doing that was bothering her was constantly messaging her when she wouldn't answer I did it because I was worried about her not because I didn't trust her but because I was worried she might be hurt or something anyway I asked her if I could call that night and she said she diden know I asked again later and she said no and I said " well do you ever want to talk to me on the phone again?" I wasn't trying to be hurtful she got upset and said she needed to think about it well the next day she broke up with me but asked if we could still be friends and said who knows what the future may bring meaning that she may want to get back together and we were doing good as friends up until Tuesday's when I asked her to be brutally honest with me if there was a chance that we could ever get back together and she basically said no and we were good for a little while and then she told me later that day that she needed a few days alone and I agreed and tried to give her a few days but I gave in and sent her an IM this morning and one of her friends later told me to leave her alone well I asked another friend of hers to ask her if she wanted to still be friends and he said he wouldn't do it out of the blue I said OK then she contacted me to tell me to leave him alone I then explained to her how I was feeling then I got this message "Jeff.. Iv been asking u to leave me alone for a few days... U havent.." I asked if I left her alone for a few days if we could still be friends and she said yes I haven't messaged her since. Well I got a message from her friend right after that and he said " I'm not sure" now we promised before we broke up that we would still be friends and we again promised after the break up I have accepted the factthat there will never be another relationship with her and it's OK for her to see new guys I'm now more worried about losing her as a friend what do I do cause I can't just completely cut ties with her I care about her too much to do that I still love her a good bit it was my fault we broke up cause I was hurting her ( I'll provide a list if things she said I did) it's not just me saying that either we have both accepted it so there is no question to why we broke up I just want to know what it means what do I do do I text her back In a week if I don't hear from her what if she never texts me back and leaves me hanging she called me last week and we had a decent conversation then she broke down and cried and said she loved me and missed me, what do I do I don't want to lose her as a friend too?
1. The distance hurt her which caused a lack of sleep
2. The lack of sleep caused her to hurt
3. The little things I would say during an argument hurt her
4. When I would pester her about what was bothering her, that hurt her.
5. When I would pester her about buying thing. That hurt her
6 freaking out when she wouldn't respond hurt her
7. Not being able to see me hurt her
So what do I do I didn't have it in my to break contact with her do I wait for her to text me or do I give it about a week then text her back, I really don't think I could handle losing her as a friend too