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fancyfrost
Sep 26, 2012, 03:35 PM
I've had a friend now that I met last year. He is very shy around a lot of people, and you are usually the one who has to first start a conversation. We used to have lunch together, and during PE we would walk laps together and just talk. I just started a new school year and there are a lot of new people I have met. I don't have a lot of classes anymore with him. Just PE. I'm not sure how this started, but I've noticed that he had started going to the weight room instead of walking laps with me. So I went to walk with another friend. This continued on for a few days. Then one day he was standing all alone facing the door and I went up to talk to him and I said hey. He just mumbled and didn't move. This continued on for a while. Then one day I went up to him in PE and he walked away. I chased after him and tried to talk to him and he ran away again. A couple days passed with me just following him, and a few days ago I kept trying to convince him to tell me why he wouldn't talk to me. He just mumbled for me to go away. But today he seemed so agitated. I tried following him and he would actually cross the whole field just to get away from me. He was standing by the door again and I went up to him and he said "just give me some privacy I want to be alone". I really couldn't believe this. He is the nicest person I know and I've come to know him so well that I never thought he could ever be mad me. I don't know what I did. I even asked him what I did and he said "It's none of your business.
I don't know what to do. It makes me so sad to think that I may never be able to talk to him again. What should I do? Am I just agitating him more by followoing him and asking him what's wrong? Should I just wait for him to talk to me? Keep in mind that he is a very shy person. If I am with a group of people won't come up to talk to me. I don't know what to do. Please give me any feedback.

teacherjenn4
Sep 26, 2012, 05:55 PM
Do you know where his locker is located? If so, you could write a note saying hi and that you would still like to walk laps at lunch. And also ask if you did or said something wrong. It can't hurt.

fancyfrost
Sep 29, 2012, 07:27 PM
Actually, our school doesn’t have lockers, but writing him a note doesn’t seem like a bad idea. Thanks, I think I might try that and you’re right, it can’t hurt. But I don’t want to be too clingy and annoying, I’ve tried many ways in trying to talk to him again but all he does is get mad and go away. Perhaps all it is is a bunch of drama. Should I give him some space and leave it up to him to sort out whatever it is that’s going on? Maybe I should try writing him a note, which I doubt he’ll read, and then just give him some space.

teacherjenn4
Sep 29, 2012, 07:31 PM
Write him a note, say what you want to say, and then leave him alone. If he wants to respond, he will. I bet he will read it, but who knows what he will do after?

fancyfrost
Sep 30, 2012, 06:22 PM
I'll try that. Thanks

teacherjenn4
Sep 30, 2012, 06:50 PM
I'll try that. thanks

Let us know what happens.