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gemmagee
Sep 25, 2012, 07:42 AM
Hi.

Could someone please help me, I'm in a situation that's really confusing.
I am friends with two men. They are both really nice people. They both want to go out with me.

The first man, I have known for a long time, he is caring,his dependable, he won't ever let me down, he has the biggest heart in the world.He can be a little dull sometimes, but we get on really well and we have an equal respect for each other. I love him very deeply, but I don't fancy him. His not great looking, he's not bad looking either, but I'm not physically attracted to him. I do love him deeply though, like a best friend. I love him, but I'm not in love with him.

The second man, I have known him for a while, but not as long as the first man. He loving and caring, but he has a complicated mental health problems that sometimes makes him unreliable, and to be honest he can't handle life sometimes. He gets very stressed out by little things. However, he is exciting, makes me laugh, he stands up for me, his on my side... and I fancy the pants off him. I'm also in love with him. But he can be such hard work at times.

I trust them both 100%

My problem is, I want to have a baby soon. Im not getting any younger what so ever, in fact I'm worried I've only got a few years left.
Both men have said they would have a baby with me. I'm not sure what to do.
Man 1 would be able to support me finanically and emotionally, but if you don't fancy someone is it just enough to love them?
Man 2 said he will be there, but because of his own problems he will let me down. He can't work, he won't be able to support me finacially or emotionally.but if he could I would be with him.

I no its easiest for me to be single, that's why I haven't committed to either of these men, but the fact that I want a baby so much, and my time is running out I'm not sure what I should do?

Any advice please?

C0bra_M3nace
Sep 25, 2012, 08:08 AM
How old are you?

gemmagee
Sep 25, 2012, 08:36 AM
how old are you

35

C0bra_M3nace
Sep 25, 2012, 08:53 AM
35

Menopause is the only thing that's going to stop you from having children if you're fertile and you don't have to worry about that for about 10 years or more.

Settle down a bit, take your time and decide who you want to be with. Don't bring a child into a relationship you aren't so sure about.