Hi folks.
I am 25, Czech rep. citizen but rather writing here in English because I couldn't find such a nice website on a Czech internet. But nevertheless, here is my story I want to share and hear some advice or opinion or something... I am kind of desperate and my heart is into pieces...

A year and a half ago I was on Erasmus exchange programme, taking one semester in Norway where I met that guy. He was (of course) from another country but we just clicked instantly! We had the same sense of humour, life opinions and we were just perfect duo in bed and we enjoyed our time abroad together. And then I fell in love. But there was a catch - back home he had a girlfriend and then the distance between us... So at the end of our stay we just said goodbye to each other and I thought that the despair would eat me alive. But it turned out that we still wanted to stay in touch, so we skyped a lot, we were chatting, text msging etc. And then (after 2 months) he visited me for several days.. in another 2 months I visited him... then we had a long pause not seeing each other but being heavily in contact, enjoying even skype sex and stuff.. and then he even eventually broke up with his girlfriend and I thought that there was nothing more against our happy ending than just the distance I was willing to get over! So we saw each other again and I started that topic about us and our future... But what I heard was something that broke my heart. He said that he didn't want to commit to me because he wouldn't be able to deal with the distance and he would be afraid to hurt me because of perhaps cheating on me back in his country and that I didn't deserve that because am very important to him. So I said that soon we were finishing our studies and that I would move because of him instantly even though I wouldn't be able to work within my field of study in his country... but for him, I would sacrifice that. And he said he would never allow me to give up my life goals because of him :( So at that moment I told him that in that case I can't stay in contact with him anymore because it hurts me. And he started to cry that he don't want to lose me that I am his best friend... So I stayed.. And since then we are still in contact which is nice but at the same time killing me inside that I can't ever have him :( Seen each other twice. Always acting like a couple... he is like my part-time boyfriend... And I am still worried that the time when he will find a nice girlfriend will come soon and then... what will happen with us? Will he still call me a best friend? Will he still need me? Or I will just fade away from his life... He says I am stupid that he will always like me no matter what that nobody knows him like I do... but hey. Those are bulls, I know. I am trying to move on and look for a nice boyfriend around me and keep him (my love) as just a friend... but nobody is like him. As I said. We just clicked. And I am slowly dying inside... Life is just not fair - showing us what we could have and then taking it away... And if you managed to read to the end (thank you a lot! ), then I want to ask: What do you think - why he doesn't want to be with me? And what should I do to move on?

This is the reason you should follow no contact with ex's. It makes it so much harder to move on and be happy. Go no contact, it will be much easier to move on if you don't see him or talk to him.

If you want to stay friends with him and live the rest of you life wondering what could have been then you're just ruining your future. The past is not a place to be living when there's a wonderful future ahead of you. So put this relationship in the past and start focusing on your future. You will find someone new, you need to get over this guy first.

He does sound wonderful because of his honesty. If you can't stand the pain, of course you break off all contact. But what are promises? He could have promised to commit to you, and maybe even meant it - thousands of people do that every day. And then they break up with you anyway. He is letting you know that there really aren't ANY promises, and he knows that long distance increases the odds of two people not lasting. He knows that if you moved to his country and gave up your career or course of study, you would be bitter when the romance moved into a different stage and you didn't have anything to show for all your study. And so on... I would value the friendship and love and leave it at that, love that isn't going to be exclusive. Meanwhile you will find someone just as nice, even if it takes a while.

I would say he is saying what he thinks is best for you, perhaps not what is in his heart. The trouble with long distance, honestly can be a issue. He did would not allow ( hate that sounds of control) he would not offer to come and be with you

This is the issue, true love would say, I will move there, even if I wash dishes for a living,
It sounds like your love is more one sided.