View Full Version : Is it okay to date around many women?
stanmatt
Sep 20, 2012, 11:16 PM
Is it okay to date around many women before choosing the one, I am thinking of just hanging out with them but no sex or intimacy so as not to hurt their feelings.
My last relationship was may of this year I got dumped and I can say I have moved on although I miss my ex from time to time and looking forward to be friends again with her in the future I sincerely believe someone new not my ex will be my ultimate happiness,
If its OK what are the precautions should I take? I am 26 by the way.
Fr_Chuck
Sep 20, 2012, 11:42 PM
This is the way it is suppose to be, date many, hang around and don't rush to start being with just one too soon
stanmatt
Sep 20, 2012, 11:46 PM
How do I handle a girl if ever it happens that she wants to be serious
slapshot_oi
Sep 21, 2012, 12:13 PM
if its OK what are the precautions should i take, I am 26 by the way
Of course it's okay, but it's never a good idea. You should date one woman at a time. Here's why:
In dating multiple women simultaneously, you will be unable to give 100% effort on each date. It's time consuming and expensive. And, if you have one failed date after another, it's discouraging.
Here are two likely scenarios:
There is one date you really look forward to, and another that you've set up as a security measure. The security date is time and money wasted, or,
You look forward to all dates, which, will drain you quickly and cause confusion as to who you ought to pick.
Going into a date half-heartedly may indicate to the woman that you're uninterested, when you actually are interested. You would, unwittingly, sabotage the date.
how do i handle a girl if ever it happens that she wants to be serious
If you date one woman at a time, then this isn't a problem, you can give her all the attention that she wants from you.
The moral: Always give your best effort, and you can only do that if you concentrate your efforts. This advice applies to everything in life, not just dating.
momknowsbest
Sep 21, 2012, 01:40 PM
Would you buy a house, or car or computer without shopping around and doing your research? Of course not, so why wouldn't you invest the same amount of time and energy finding a partner that you want to spend the rest of your life with?
Be honest with the women your are dating and let them know that you aren't ready for a serious relationship. Go out a lot and have some fun. If and when you meet the right one things will develop all by themselves.
talaniman
Sep 22, 2012, 04:29 PM
Talaniman Rule - Date them all! Short, fat, skinny or tall! 18 to 80, blind cripple, or crazy.
Keep it friends keep it real (honest) and have fun getting to know people.
stanmatt
Sep 23, 2012, 05:26 PM
Thanks to all your answers, this one girl she is really a great career woman said she really likes me which is good I really admire her but I think 4 months after a break up is still really fresh for me to be in a serious relationship