So I went out with this girl for almost one year.. She was my first girlfriend and I fell completely for her. The first 10 months of the relationship were great and then her dad died. Things started to change, we hung out still but the happiness wasn't quite the same and a lot of nights were spent with her crying and me trying as hard as I could to comfort her often not being able to help at all. Then right before what would have been our one year together, she broke up with me. Told me that we needed a break but that we should still talk and that she just needed time.

Things only got weirder after that we wouldn't talk for some days and then others we would randomly she would come over and we would kiss and stuff. Then she would ignore me again. After two months of this going on she asked if she could come over and we ended up having sex. She really seemed like she wanted to get back together. Then the night after that she confessed to me that she has kissed two other guys during out "break" and I told her that I had kissed one girl during our break. She got mad at me. So she decided she needed time to think about getting back with me.

About a week after that she called and said that we shouldn't talk anymore but that she still loved me and was sorry about everything, but she said we should talk in October when I promised to come to one of her games. It's been over a month and a half and I haven't heard a word from her. The game is in about twenty days... What should I do? Just go and hope for the best? Or call her now and remind her I'm going.. I feel as though maybe she won't feel the same by then.. I'm very confused by the whole situation any advice would help!

It didn't work out the first time, what makes you think it will be any different now? Move on with your life, don't hang yourself up on this one girl, there will be plenty more.

What should I do? Just go and hope for the best? Or call her now and remind her I'm going..
Do neither. Heed her advice and don't talk to her anymore.

Do nothing, leave her alone.

According to what you've posted, it seems like everything was fine up until a traumatic event happened in her life. Since you say that she was your first girlfriend and you're going to one of her "games", I can safely assume that you guys are still in high school or possibly college.

Were you always there for her and were you understanding when her dad died? Did you give her time to grief her tremendous loss, or did you act selfish even in the slightest way? If you didn't really support her during this hard time for her, then she may have rethought your relationship and realized that you weren't what she was looking for in a relationship.

And if you were the perfect boyfriend to her during the time after her dad died, then she may just be immature and not know how to handle both a serious romanctic relationship and a family crisis simultaneously.

But just give her the time that you promised, and see how she's feeling when October rolls around. But in the meantime keep your options open, who knows you might meet someone who you get along with better. I hope this helps.

Yeah we are both young she is a year younger than me and still in high school I just left for college. But I still am only about 10 minutes away. I think that for the most part I was the perfect boyfriend type, and believe immaturity did play a part in it. Because she kept telling me I was like to good and didn't want to hurt me and that's why she needed time. Because she said I was to important to her to lose forever... So she has told me several times that she will want me back but that was a little over a month and a half ago. And to everyone saying that there are other girls. I know that, and have tried talking with and being with others. But its not quite the same and I haven't found one that I really liked. So I am keeping my options open not just putting everything into getting back with her. At this point I would be happy even just being friends. I will go to that volleyball game she reminded me that I said I would go to that like 20 times so I feel that she does want me to go