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Xebian
Sep 19, 2012, 12:57 AM
Hi I've been with my partner 2 months now and I'm finding it hard to trust her at work it all started when she reived a pic message of a man at work of dildos with a message this or mister grey? I found this in her phone I know its rong to do that but something was telling me to check about a week after she had another message along thei same lines but deleted it before I had time to see she says that it's a friend from work that has a weird humor but I'm really not sure anymore I'm making myself ile with worry and it's effecting my work she has blocked this person on whatsapp but his number is still in her phone and on her Facebook :(
Really not sure what to do anymore I'm now having to have time off work due to stress and my nerves are shot please if anyone can advice me thanks

joypulv
Sep 19, 2012, 02:06 AM
Men in offices can get really bold and gross because they are bored, because they hate their jobs, because women are working right next to them and they are frustrated. It does NOT mean the women want it or are asking for it! You have to trust until you have evidence that she is reciprocating, and it sounds like she isn't!
So... the problem is yours. Mistrust, suspicion, and jealousy are killers of relationships. Is that what you want?
Have you sat down and talked with her in a non-accusing way? Told her how you are having a hard time and to please help you understand? Have you stopped spying and snooping? She might easily leave you, and it won't be for one of the other men, it will be because of your behavior. If she is worth keeping, you will force yourself to change or get help.