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Charrlote
Sep 18, 2012, 07:21 PM
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years now, we are both fresh out of high school and doing our best to be adult about most things. Recently he has been doing lawn work and carpentry with a nieghbor. I would call and text and he say he was too busy to answer and would say sorry. I didn't think much about it because I understood. But this has become his excuse for everything now. When I call him he doesn't answer and all of a sudden my calls are going straight to voicemail, also he rarely ever answers my text .

We will goes up to a whole week without talking, and the sad thing is we only live down the street from each other. I try to go to his place but I don't know if he wants me to because he never answers his phone. He acts like a jerk to me sometimes and he says he sleeps all day too . That's also one of his excuses for not talking to me. I don't feel like I'm nagging him too much. But he makes me feel like crap and not a girlfriend.

I talked to him about it before, he said he would change but it hasn't happen. This has been going on for a couple months now. He never says I love you first anymore and all he wants to do is sleep or do whatever it is that he does at home. Some days when he says he was sleep or working, I see him texting his friends or answer phone calls from other people and I think like why doesn't he answer my call or text?

Maybe I'm over doing it, but I am so hurt and angry , I can't cheat on him because I'm never that girl and I don't want to be, but I want to punch him in his head sometimes and tell him that I hate him so much. He doesn't like when I talk to him about how I feel or when I'm upset, trust me he's made that absolutley clear . He only makes me feel worse about it . And when I do talk to him and tell him I missed him so much he just says "mmhmm" like I'm a dumb child.

What do I do?

talaniman
Sep 18, 2012, 07:34 PM
You allow him to get away with this why? Just dump him. I know you are so in love, but he treats you like crap and ignores you. Dump him, as that's probably what he wants you to do.

teacherjenn4
Sep 18, 2012, 07:37 PM
Sounds like it is time to move on with your life . What are you doing with your life after high school? Work? College? You tell us what he is doing, but not yourself.

Charrlote
Sep 18, 2012, 08:11 PM
I go to school and I take care of my mother at home.

teacherjenn4
Sep 18, 2012, 08:24 PM
I go to school and I take care of my mother at home.

He isn't treating you right. Why do you want a boyfriend who doesn't talk to you? When was the last time you two went out on a date?

Charrlote
Sep 19, 2012, 10:48 AM
He isn't treating you right. Why do you want a boyfriend who doesn't talk to you? When was the last time you two went out on a date?

We haven't been on a date in like a year and a half almost . But we do like hang out at like mcdonalds and wendys and we do go out with other couples. But nothing romantic anymore. We just sit and eat in the car . I just miss HIM, old him.

teacherjenn4
Sep 19, 2012, 10:59 AM
We haven't been on a date in like a year and a half almost . But we do like hang out at like mcdonalds and wendys and we do go out with other couples. But nothing romantic anymore. We just sit and eat in the car . I just miss HIM, old him.
There's no excuse. If he can't live up to your expectations, then it's time to move on with your life. You've wasted too much already.

Charrlote
Sep 19, 2012, 12:30 PM
There's no excuse. If he can't live up to your expectations, then it's time to move on with your life. You've wasted too much already.
I know. But its easier said than done.

teacherjenn4
Sep 19, 2012, 01:21 PM
I know. But its easier said than done.

Your other choice is the life you have now with him. And that is the boyfriend you are complaining about.

Charrlote
Sep 19, 2012, 04:12 PM
Your other choice is the life you have now with him. And that is the boyfriend you are complaining about.

Yea, your right. :/

debika
Nov 27, 2012, 09:51 PM
Hi . I understand you must be very sad & heart-broken. I am going through the same stage myself . Seems your boyfriend got bored of your relationship . He was in it only for the initial exctitement & now its just a liability to him. I agree with everyone else. What's the point in being in a relationship that is causing you only heart-ache & pain ? If you have enough money , please go to another accommodation & engage yourself in activities that make you happy . Your BF seems to me like those people who take happiness for granted . You are a good human being & you deserve better . Trust me . Don't look back.