View Full Version : Had my first kiss but I'm confused
frotondi86
Sep 17, 2012, 08:45 PM
I just had my first kiss and makeout session yesterday it went pretty well. But the guy hasn't texted me and I just don't know why. I texted him after asking watsup and he said thinking about you. I said that he was funny and he said that he was serious, I said aww that's cute but he never got back to me or texted me today. I just want to know how I can let him know that I can't just makeout with someone who doesn't even like me. I don't know where we stand right now. I really like him, I just don't want to get hurt. Btw, we made out 3 other times in the same day. I'm confused why he didn't tell me to stop if he's not interested. Please help me. Btw this is my neighbors friend... he's a freshman in college and I'm a junior.
J_9
Sep 17, 2012, 08:59 PM
You are a junior in high school?
Sounds like he's playing you. He got almost what he wanted but you didn't put out enough.
Hey, at least you aren't pregnant from this guy!
frotondi86
Sep 17, 2012, 09:10 PM
Omg thanks so much! I wasn't even thinking about it until u said it! He asked me to go upstairs while we were making out but I said no!
J_9
Sep 17, 2012, 09:15 PM
Yeah, he's out for more.
It's best to avoid these situations until you are in a stable relationship.
He didn't tell you to stop because he wanted to get in your pants. Don't give yourself up so easily.
J_9
Sep 17, 2012, 09:37 PM
So you disliked my response why? Because it's the truth?
What we do here is tell the truth. If it's not what you want to hear, ask your friends. They'll tell you what you want to hear.
frotondi86
Sep 17, 2012, 09:38 PM
So you disliked my response why? Because it's the truth?
What we do here is tell the truth. If it's not what you want to hear, ask your friends. They'll tell you what you want to hear.
It was actually an accident. I'm on my phone right now, I don't know how to change it.
J_9
Sep 17, 2012, 09:43 PM
It was actually an accident. I'm on my phone right now, I don't know how to change it.
You can't change it.
joypulv
Sep 17, 2012, 10:16 PM
Needing to keep texting might have been a bit annoying. I would have stopped when he said he was thinking of you - that was sweet. Your next two texts just sort of dragged out into the realm of boring and never ending. Be a little more mysterious and a little less needy.
But... I'm older and pre-text. I find 99% of all texting so banal that it horrifies me.
And beware - college students generally get involved with other college students.
joypulv
Sep 17, 2012, 10:30 PM
I read all your past posts. You gave out several negatives. Please don't say they were done accidentally. If you can't control your responses, maybe this site isn't for you.
ArmstrongMiller
Sep 18, 2012, 12:56 AM
Age is not a barriar between you. And You just BE BREAVE, and you can be initiator. Come on. You can do it.
ScottGem
Sep 18, 2012, 03:17 AM
Age is not a barriar between you. and You just BE BREAVE, and you can be initiator. Come on. You can do it.
Do what? Clearly this guy was just trying to get in her pants? So why should she try to pursue it?
frotondi86
Sep 18, 2012, 09:41 AM
All of you are right! It was my fault not his. I made a bad decision because I wanted to get kissed so bad, he didn't push me to do anything. It was my decision and I'm a very weak person, I'm going to try to be stronger. Thanks for the advice.
ScottGem
Sep 18, 2012, 09:45 AM
All of you are right! It was my fault not his. I made a bad decision because I wanted to get kissed so bad, he didn't push me to do anything. It was my decision and I'm a very weak person, I'm going to try to be stronger. Thanks for the advice.
While I'm sure it was your decision I would not be so sure he didn't push you. If you were so intent on getting kissed, I'm sure he picked up on it and led you into it.
frotondi86
Sep 18, 2012, 10:04 AM
Yeah but I decided to kiss him, its not like he put a knife to my stomach making me do it. Anyway, it was just a kiss, and next time I'm going to go crazy on a guy who expects me to have sex just because I kissed him. I have to make sure that he knows that I'm strong and that I respect myself.
Homegirl 50
Sep 18, 2012, 07:50 PM
You need to stop messing with these guys because you are not ready for anything else and you don't need to be.
frotondi86
Sep 18, 2012, 09:27 PM
I'm not messing with anyone, I just want to have fun. I'm a teenager, I made mistakes, but I will learn from them. And he was messing with me too, it was a win, win sort of thing.
Homegirl 50
Sep 19, 2012, 04:46 AM
I'm not messing with anyone, I just want to have fun. I'm a teenager, I made mistakes, but I will learn from them. And he was messing with me too, it was a win, win sort of thing.
It is not always win win. Some people get hurt and loose. These kissing and make out sessions can lead to things you are not ready for.
Be careful.
frotondi86
Sep 19, 2012, 02:58 PM
You're right, I have to be careful, thanks for the advice.