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08597321
Sep 16, 2012, 09:27 PM
Like this guy is 15 and he wants to have sex. He asked me and I said yes. I mean he like a long time relationship. I know that cause he had sex with this girl a couple of times and stayed with here for more that 2 years. But back to the question... WHAT should I DO??

J_9
Sep 16, 2012, 09:41 PM
Are you ready to be a mother? If not, I suggest you do not have sex with this boy.

You are too young to be a single mother.

Fr_Chuck
Sep 16, 2012, 11:07 PM
She he had sex at 13 ? If he was with her for 2 years . So why are they broke up, After you have sex, and he leaves you in two years will it be worth it ?

If he leaves you in 6 months after you get pregnant is it worth it ?

If he was really worth anything, he would respect you not wanting to have sex and staying with you would not require sex

TheKidOfTheWise
Sep 17, 2012, 02:10 AM
Like they said, it is not wise to do so. Even if you use condems and birth control pills you can still get pregnant. If he gets you pregnant and leaves you, what will you do? You can have an abortion, but that will cause you grief for the rest of your life. You can have the baby, but that will cause you hardshipps at such young age. The question is are you ready to take chances, because if not. Don't do it.

joypulv
Sep 17, 2012, 02:44 AM
Romance is wonderful. Being dumped is pain and then more pain.
Add sex to romance, and the pain is multiplied a million times.
We all go through various pains of love throughout our lives. Wait until you are old enough to deal with it, not that it's ever easy. Teen feelings can turn on a dime. Just because he stayed with one girl from 13 to 15 doesn't mean he will with you, or anyone, now that he is 15.
High school is also a hotbed of gossip. There is no privacy in relationships. Everyone will know everything you do, and many of them will make stuff up too.

JudyKayTee
Sep 17, 2012, 02:05 PM
... You can have an abortion, but that will cause you grief for the rest of your life. You can have the baby, but that will cause you hardshipps at such young age. The question is are you ready to take chances, because if not. Don't do it.


I agree in theory but I don't agree that an abortion causes a person grief "for the rest" of her life.

TheKidOfTheWise
Sep 17, 2012, 03:56 PM
Yeah I guess that varies in person.

Homegirl 50
Sep 17, 2012, 04:49 PM
How old is this boy? Sex with him or anyone at your age is crazy.

JudyKayTee
Sep 17, 2012, 04:53 PM
How old is this boy? Sex with him or anyone at your age is crazy.


I think less time thinking about having sex and more time "hitting the books" would be beneficial to the OP.

Homegirl 50
Sep 17, 2012, 05:25 PM
I think less time thinking about having sex and more time "hitting the books" would be beneficial to the OP.

Hello!

saltlifek
Oct 6, 2012, 12:01 PM
Sex is usually always scary the first time, not going to lie, it can hurt too! If you haven't been with this guy for 1+ years, if you do not 110% love him, and if he does not 110% love you, and just wants you for the sex, then DO NOT DO IT. I was in a long term relationship with a guy that I thought would be my last, and that didn't work. I regret it, and regret goes with you for the rest of your life. Save your yourself for someone that sees you as their world :)

Homegirl 50
Oct 6, 2012, 03:43 PM
You wait until you are in a position to afford a possible pregnancy, you have a job, health insurance...
Just because someone dated someone for a couple of years, that does not mean having sex with him is the right thing. How old is this guy?