View Full Version : We broke up at the dance, why?
josiepuppy123
Sep 16, 2012, 06:31 AM
I went to my dance with my boyfriend and so did all 5 of my bffs. My boyfriend took me into the corner where no one was and he kissed me on the cheek then went away and I'm just standing there wondering why he walked away. But finally he came back and said (his exact words which I can't get over them) "Samantha I love you to death but I just dont think that we should have happened when were 15. Maybe when were 18" and I said "why" and went on and on and on about how beautiful I was and that he had to break up because of my dad was being a big jerk to him.
So here's the point. I can't do this and he still wants me I think because he winks and smiles and blows kisses to me. And yesterday he kissed me on the cheek at the mall and held my hand. But we broke up so why is he doing this??
TheKidOfTheWise
Sep 16, 2012, 05:27 PM
One way is he is playing you like a puppy and wants you to come to him. Also how old are the both of you. Anyway he is just a kid as are you. So it might not be love. Besides that he might be giving you signs that he still wants you, but wants you to come to him or us scared of your Dad. If he truly loved you then he would not have broken up with
You even though your Dad is scaring him off. If that really was the case then he wouldn't have blowed kisses at you. If he was scared or didn't want to cause you trouble he would have avoided you, prevent eye contact that way you can forget about hum.
josiepuppy123
Sep 17, 2012, 12:52 PM
One way is he is playing you like a puppy and wants you to come to him. Also how old are the both of you. Anyways he is just a kid as are you. So it might not be love. Besides that he might be giving you signs that he still wants you, but wants you to come to him or us scared of your Dad. If he truly loved you then he would not have broken up with
You even though your Dad is scaring him off. If that really was the case then he wouldn't have blowed kisses at you. If he was scared or didn't want to cause you trouble he would have avoided you, prevent eye contact that way you can forget about hum.
Urghhhhhhhhhhhhhh I'm 15 and he's 18 were teens and nvm about this question were back together because now my dads in the hospital
And he said he loves me but he was just mad at my dad because well... lets just say my dad isn't the nicest or easiest person to be "friends" with
joypulv
Sep 17, 2012, 02:17 PM
Your dad is concerned about you getting pregnant, a disease, getting arrested at a party with booze or drugs, getting in an accident in a car with older kids - all the worries parents have.
At 18 your boyfriend is an adult, and will be treated as one if anything happens to you, a minor. That means jail for him.
Do your dad a favor while he's in the hospital - PLEASE - and cool it for a while.
JudyKayTee
Sep 17, 2012, 03:27 PM
I think you've lost any credibility you had - https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating/bff-vs-bf-702703.html; https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/whom-do-choose-663910.html
josiepuppy123
Sep 18, 2012, 12:15 PM
Your dad is concerned about you getting pregnant, a disease, getting arrested at a party with booze or drugs, getting in an accident in a car with older kids - all the worries parents have.
At 18 your bf is an adult, and will be treated as one if anything happens to you, a minor. That means jail for him.
Do your dad a favor while he's in the hospital - PLEASE - and cool it for a while.
The thing is he cares about me too much!! He doesn't know that were more than friends he would kill me! When I was 10 he said that if I wanted to date I had to date someone that's a family friend or that he knows is capable of not throwing teen parties or any oof that sh--
JudyKayTee
Sep 18, 2012, 12:32 PM
the thing is he cares about me too much!!!!!!!!!!! he doesnt know that were more than friends he would kill me! when i was 10 he said that if i wanted to date i had to date someone thats a family friend or that he knows is capable of not throwing teen parties or any oof that sh--
I think he has good reason to worry - I've read the rest of your threads.
I'd spend more time on my school work and less time on my social life -
joypulv
Sep 18, 2012, 01:20 PM
I've read all your posts and can't believe that you are 15 (ARE YOU? ). I don't think I've ever read anything so immature all in all. This isn't meant to be a put down, but there is something really lacking in how you interact with boys, and your lack of understanding of what is going on, and what the future is about.
I also think you are imagining a lot about how serious your boyfriend has been about you. It isn't just your dad that is sending him away - it's the differences in how he sees the relationship vs what you think it is.
JudyKayTee
Sep 18, 2012, 01:26 PM
I've read all your posts and can't believe that you are 15 (ARE YOU??). I don't think I've ever read anything so immature all in all. This isn't meant to be a put down, but there is something really lacking in how you interact with boys, and your lack of understanding of what is going on, and what the future is about.
I also think you are imagining a lot about how serious your boyfriend has been about you. It isn't just your dad that is sending him away - it's the differences in how he sees the relationship vs what you think it is.
I think there's a high level of immaturity, I don't believe the OP is 15 (judging by the spelling alone), and I think AMHD has turned into her personal blog.
Once again another teen dating/planning a wedding - whatever - behind her parents' back.
A lot of teenage drama - but certainly no lack of self confidence (if you read all the threads).
TheKidOfTheWise
Sep 18, 2012, 01:26 PM
I agree with joypulv, I know 10 year old girls who act more mature then you. I am not trying to be offensive but rather stating the truth. I am just an eighth grader and I remember the imaturity of my class in 6th grade, the act like you. Even though we are about 1, 2 year younger then you.
SweetxSweet
Sep 20, 2012, 12:11 AM
Seriously? I mean there's 2 possibility. The first one will be just like what he said, your dad is being a big fat jerk to him and he can't handle it? But that's a lame reason I mean if you love someone a lot you'll be able to get through it so I think he's just not that into you. Sorry but I think you should find someone else who would treasure you and not just break up with you because of your dad.
C0bra_M3nace
Sep 20, 2012, 03:56 AM
the thing is he cares about me too much!!!!!!!!!!! he doesnt know that were more than friends he would kill me! when i was 10 he said that if i wanted to date i had to date someone thats a family friend or that he knows is capable of not throwing teen parties or any oof that sh--
You'd do well to listen to your father and respect him, especially at your age. There are hundreds of thousands of kids around the world that have no father to care about them, to guide them, to protect them and to teach them right from wrong.
I'd take a father who cares too much over a father who doesn't or no father at all any day.
josiepuppy123
Sep 21, 2012, 10:55 AM
I agree with joypulv, I know 10 year old girls who act more mature then you. I am not trying to be offensive but rather stating the truth. I am just an eigth grader and I remember the imaturity of my class in 6th grade, the act like you. Even though we are about 1, 2 year younger then you.
OK listen all my life I had to find my own way my mom and my dad never did anything my teachers were mean and told us that we would get wipped if we did the wrong thing and that's how I learned all my school work but I don't know how I'm suppose to act outside of school
joypulv
Sep 21, 2012, 11:30 AM
I'm very sorry you have had a tough life. Learning about people takes years and years. That's why you stay away from boys until you understand. You are so lucky this 18 year old boy-who-is-now-a-man-in-the-eyes-of-the-law kissed you on the cheek and walked away - he knows that you are clueless, and he knows that he can get in trouble. The next guy with raging hormones will just want to get in your pants. Oh, and he may promise you the moon, but sex is what he wants, and you never get the moon or even help getting your clothes back on and a way to get home, or help with birth control, or an abortion, or diseases, some of which are untreatable.
JudyKayTee
Sep 21, 2012, 11:47 AM
ok listen all my life i had to find my own way my mom and my dad never did anything my teachers were mean and told us that we would get wipped if we did the wrong thing and thats how i learned all my school work but i dont know how im suppose to act outside of school
All of your teachers were mean? Every single one of them. Hard to believe. After reading your posts I question whether you actually did learn all of your school work -
So your Mom and Dad never did ANYTHING? What does that mean? You raised yourself? In one post we're reading about how tough your father is when it comes to you dating. Now he doesn't do anything.
I think you have a lot of growing up to do - you don't even sound 15. I would have guessed 12.
TheKidOfTheWise
Sep 21, 2012, 11:56 AM
All of your teachers were mean? Every single one of them. Hard to believe. After reading your posts I question whether you actually did learn all of your school work -
So your Mom and Dad never did ANYTHING? What does that mean? You raised yourself? In one post we're reading about how tough your father is when it comes to you dating. Now he doesn't do anything.
I think you have a lot of growing up to do - you don't even sound 15. I would have guessed 12. I would have to agree with that. My classmates even now as 8th grades (some are 14) are still quite immature. But I act differently. Two years ago in sixth grade (we were 11 and 12 years old) and some of them act the same way they did back then.
JudyKayTee
Sep 21, 2012, 12:02 PM
I would have to agree with that. My classmates even now as 8th grades (some are 14) are still quite immature. But I act differently. Two years ago in sixth grade (we were 11 and 12 years old) and some of them act the same way they did back then.
I think the spelling and punctuation (or lack thereof) are dead giveaways.
Again, OP keeps shifting her position.