bloved
Sep 15, 2012, 01:01 PM
Me and my fiancé of 4 yrs. Have a son together. I have an 11 year old daughter from a previous relationship. Lately we have been arguing a lot. He hates my daughter. He says she is a very disrespectful little girl. At first I would let him discipline her. He is way too harsh on her to the point where he is mentally abusing her. He refers to my daughter as a little perra piece of ****.
It's to the point where me and him get into it because I don’t appreciate him calling her names. I’ve told him numerous times for all of us to go to counseling, church somewhere to seek for help. He refuses. Recently he told me is either him or my daughter. He says our relationship is messed up because of her. It seems that every time me and him get into it about my daughter he goes out and drinks stays out late and comes back drunk. I feel like he puts that as an excuse to be out with his friends.
Another thing is that he is always in and out of my life. He has one foot in the relationship and one out. Just recently he came home at 12 am drunk and this time I kicked him out. I don’t know if I did the right decision. I miss him. Our argument was over my daughter. He got upset because I did not leave her home after school and instead I took her to the babysitter. He says I let my daughter do whatever she wants. And that’s not true my daughter did not feel comfortable staying home with my fiancé being there.
When my daughter is not with us, he does the same thing. He leaves and comes back drunk. He calls me names he puts me down to the point where my self-esteem is to the lowest. He takes me and his son for granted. He chooses his friends and everything else over us. And now I’m sitting here asking myself if I did the right thing. Usually its him that leaves me and this time around it was me.
I am fed up yet I miss him. It hurts that he can’t be a family man with us. It hurts that he puts my daughter as an excuse. I don’t know how to feel. Help...
It's to the point where me and him get into it because I don’t appreciate him calling her names. I’ve told him numerous times for all of us to go to counseling, church somewhere to seek for help. He refuses. Recently he told me is either him or my daughter. He says our relationship is messed up because of her. It seems that every time me and him get into it about my daughter he goes out and drinks stays out late and comes back drunk. I feel like he puts that as an excuse to be out with his friends.
Another thing is that he is always in and out of my life. He has one foot in the relationship and one out. Just recently he came home at 12 am drunk and this time I kicked him out. I don’t know if I did the right decision. I miss him. Our argument was over my daughter. He got upset because I did not leave her home after school and instead I took her to the babysitter. He says I let my daughter do whatever she wants. And that’s not true my daughter did not feel comfortable staying home with my fiancé being there.
When my daughter is not with us, he does the same thing. He leaves and comes back drunk. He calls me names he puts me down to the point where my self-esteem is to the lowest. He takes me and his son for granted. He chooses his friends and everything else over us. And now I’m sitting here asking myself if I did the right thing. Usually its him that leaves me and this time around it was me.
I am fed up yet I miss him. It hurts that he can’t be a family man with us. It hurts that he puts my daughter as an excuse. I don’t know how to feel. Help...