I was with my boyfirend for a long time and a week before our 4 yr relationship he broke up with me and asked me to move out. I was devastated and hurt that the man I loved admitted he wasn't in love with me.

During our 4 month separation I dated and was living in my sisters kitchen and her boyfriend didn't want me there anymore so the guy I was seeing at the time offered for me to stay there till I found a place. I also had one of my girlfriends stay with me so it didn't make it feel like I was starting a new relationship with someone like that. I wasn't ready and considering us girls we're planning to get a place together why not have her around. I soon realized I was not happy and was dating him for the wrong reasons (money) and trying to move on. I knew where my heart was but I tried.

Now we're back together but he can't accept that I dated other people even though he was doing the same thing. Given I moved in with someone but I moved with my friend so there would be no attachments.

I know my wrong during this process and hate the last 4 months. Am I wrong for telling him to get over it and accept what's in front of him especially since I've forgiven him? Will he everembrace our 2nd chance? I'm concerned because we have been living together again for the last 2 months and his children are involved. He's always upset and thinking and dwelling and taking it out on me instead of focusing on our future. I know what I want and have no interest in anyone else. What do I do? I'm lost...

I have no idea why you broke up in the first place but what makes you think anything will be any different a second time around? You should have just moved on with your life and saved yourself the heartache.

We have a lot of history and love each other and know what's at stake. It was our first break up and we both know we deserve to give it a second chance. Unfortunately during the break up we both rushed to forget but realized we couldn't and that we both cared and loved each other.. It has been better except when something comes up and makes it seem like reference of the last 4 months it causes tension. The references are unintentional and or when we talk about last 4 months it becomes a battle. I feel in order to move you have to forgive and forget even though we'll never completely forget, we can at least focus on what's in front of us.

We have good days for the most part but it's a constant battle with our inner demons that are trying to break us again. I believe those 4 months shouldn't matter especially considering we never thought we would be together. What's important is the present and future. We can't chang the past but we can direct our future if it's what we both want.

So you don't think that once you settle and get comfortable with each other the problems won't arise again? It is your choice in the end, I just fear the odds are against you.

He is the one who left you. Tell him to either get over it or leave. You need to get a backbone.

I suggest those responding to this thread read his/her other thread for more background information: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/how-get-over-our-4-month-separation-have-succesful-reconciliation-694421.html

This sounds like her version using his site account and thats confusing.