After my divorce I re-married. The women a married has never had children and I have brought into this marriage 2 children from my previous marriage. My children are all grown up i.e 20 and 23 yrs old but are still students. Before marriage my children and my wife got along but since being married, she has not been the same. My wife nit picks all the time, nothing they do is good enough. She never praises them for the good that they do and runs them down when they do something she does not like. She speaks ill about them to her mom and others (not sure whom else). When I got married, they went out of their way to do things for her and the wedding etc. They even up-routed from where they had all their friends and family they to be with me and my new wife in a different city.

The relationship has become really bad between my wife and I and also my children. I stand by my kids when they are right and reprimand them when they are wrong. I don't like what is happening and need an islamic perspective and solution to this problem. Please help!

What are the duties of my wife toward my children and vice versa. She has created so much bad blood and still does not believe she has. She thinks that I support my kids and only listen to them and not her. When I reprimand my children, I do it privately because they are grown up and when I deal with my wife I do it privately as well because I don't want my children to listen in on what I tell her. The situation now is very unbearable - please help!

After my divorce I re-married. The women a married has never had children and i have brought into this marriage 2 children from my previous marriage. My children are all grown up i.e 20 and 23 yrs old but are still students. Before marriage my children and my wife got along but since being married, she has not been the same. My wife nit picks all the time, nothing they do is good enough. She never praises them for the good that they do and runs them down when they do something she does not like. She speaks ill about them to her mom and others (not sure whom else). When i got married, they went out of their way to do things for her and the wedding etc. They even up-routed from where they had all their friends and family they to be with me and my new wife in a different city.

The relationship has become really bad between my wife and I and also my children. I stand by my kids when they are right and reprimand them when they are wrong. I don't like what is happening and need an islamic perspective and solution to this problem. Please help!

What are the duties of my wife toward my children and vice versa. She has created so much bad blood and still does not believe she has. She thinks that I support my kids and only listen to them and not her. When i reprimand my children, i do it privately because they are grown up and when i deal with my wife i do it privately as well because i dont want my children to listen in on what i tell her. The situation now is very unbearable - please help!


Are you asking for advice according to Islam or in general?

Firstly according to Islam, then general