nic0808
Sep 11, 2012, 01:59 AM
My boyfriend of 8 months has told me he don't love me and never will. We got together and everything was great for the first 6 weeks. After 6 weeks he said he didn't know what he wanted and threw me out of his flat. He called the next day to say he missed me and that he was sorry and could I go round.
Everything was great for a couple of week until went out for his mates birthday and then the next day he said he didn't know what he wanted and said he didn't think he loved me and didn't know if he could. We managed to sort things out again. Anyway a month later we decided to buy a car together and a week after he dumped me again and said he would pay me back for the car. We then sorted things out again as he came running back.
One night he went fishing with his friend who told him he didn't like the way he treated me or the things he said to me as I confided in his best mates girlfriend. I wasn't slagging him off, I just had no one to confide in and we go to exercise class together and I just told her how he could be. Anyway he told me I shouldn't of confided in his mate and now his mates give him grief and he can't be with someone who goes behind his back. Anyway he came running back after a week.
Then three weeks later he texts me out the blue and says that were not working out, he doesn't love me and I don't turn him on, and that he can't bear to be near me. This lasted for about three weeks. Then one day before I was due to go away for the week, he texted and asked me to go round. He said he didn't deserve me and I deserved better than him, and he was worthless. Anyway I went on holiday and he was lovely the whole time I was away. Then a week after I got back he did the same again. He then asked me to go over a week later and he seemed to really change.
For 9 weeks things were great, we even moved in together, and everything was going really well up until 5 weeks ago. We started to become distant, always going out, one night I lashed out at him in an argument and he hit me back. He then sorted things out with me the next day apologizing. The following week he went out came back and head butted me and grabbed my face and spat at me for no reason. The weekend just gone he threw me against a wall and punched me in the face and grabbed my neck so hard he left marks. He also destroyed a picture of my dad who is no longer here and says he never meant to do it and feels really bad about it. The next day he was really sorry but no excuse I know. But his ex wife has done a lot of stirring and he believes her all the time over me. He even stayed with her for a few days the other week and has slagged me off to her, telling her I am a psycho and a nut case, but non of this is my fault. I am only guilty for confiding in his mates girlfriend and lashing out at him in an argument,
Last weekend we worked things out and all week things were good, then I went out and he over heard me telling my friend regards some rumors that went around about him. I never told him as I didn't think he needed to know but its all now blown up and he's gone to stay at his mums. I don't know why but I want him back but he's been really nasty telling me he don't love me. He wants to marry and have kids again but not with me which has really cut me up. I love him so much but he has turned the whole situation round on me and now has me believing this is all my fault. He told me if I had kept my mouth shut about things then we could have worked things out. I don't know what to do for the best? Please give me so advice?
He says he has a lot of issues with trust, paranoia, and anger issues but his ex wife doesn't help with all the stirring. He even allowed her to come round and threaten me in my own home with my child asleep in the next room and he sat and watched and said I deserved it as I lied. His Facebook was hacked and I was forwarded a load of messages from a load of other woman that he had been sending and he denies it was him. And that for the last 8 months somebody has been messaging these woman on his FB without him knowing. I caught him texting some girl a line of kisses as she had texted him saying that he meant the world to her, he meant so much babe, and he made out it was just a friend.
Please help.
Everything was great for a couple of week until went out for his mates birthday and then the next day he said he didn't know what he wanted and said he didn't think he loved me and didn't know if he could. We managed to sort things out again. Anyway a month later we decided to buy a car together and a week after he dumped me again and said he would pay me back for the car. We then sorted things out again as he came running back.
One night he went fishing with his friend who told him he didn't like the way he treated me or the things he said to me as I confided in his best mates girlfriend. I wasn't slagging him off, I just had no one to confide in and we go to exercise class together and I just told her how he could be. Anyway he told me I shouldn't of confided in his mate and now his mates give him grief and he can't be with someone who goes behind his back. Anyway he came running back after a week.
Then three weeks later he texts me out the blue and says that were not working out, he doesn't love me and I don't turn him on, and that he can't bear to be near me. This lasted for about three weeks. Then one day before I was due to go away for the week, he texted and asked me to go round. He said he didn't deserve me and I deserved better than him, and he was worthless. Anyway I went on holiday and he was lovely the whole time I was away. Then a week after I got back he did the same again. He then asked me to go over a week later and he seemed to really change.
For 9 weeks things were great, we even moved in together, and everything was going really well up until 5 weeks ago. We started to become distant, always going out, one night I lashed out at him in an argument and he hit me back. He then sorted things out with me the next day apologizing. The following week he went out came back and head butted me and grabbed my face and spat at me for no reason. The weekend just gone he threw me against a wall and punched me in the face and grabbed my neck so hard he left marks. He also destroyed a picture of my dad who is no longer here and says he never meant to do it and feels really bad about it. The next day he was really sorry but no excuse I know. But his ex wife has done a lot of stirring and he believes her all the time over me. He even stayed with her for a few days the other week and has slagged me off to her, telling her I am a psycho and a nut case, but non of this is my fault. I am only guilty for confiding in his mates girlfriend and lashing out at him in an argument,
Last weekend we worked things out and all week things were good, then I went out and he over heard me telling my friend regards some rumors that went around about him. I never told him as I didn't think he needed to know but its all now blown up and he's gone to stay at his mums. I don't know why but I want him back but he's been really nasty telling me he don't love me. He wants to marry and have kids again but not with me which has really cut me up. I love him so much but he has turned the whole situation round on me and now has me believing this is all my fault. He told me if I had kept my mouth shut about things then we could have worked things out. I don't know what to do for the best? Please give me so advice?
He says he has a lot of issues with trust, paranoia, and anger issues but his ex wife doesn't help with all the stirring. He even allowed her to come round and threaten me in my own home with my child asleep in the next room and he sat and watched and said I deserved it as I lied. His Facebook was hacked and I was forwarded a load of messages from a load of other woman that he had been sending and he denies it was him. And that for the last 8 months somebody has been messaging these woman on his FB without him knowing. I caught him texting some girl a line of kisses as she had texted him saying that he meant the world to her, he meant so much babe, and he made out it was just a friend.
Please help.