Okay I have a true problem,
My lover and I has been on and off for 2 and a half consecutively due to the poor decisions that I have made. Plus I have just got out of a tough break-up with my first love because I showed too much love; in other words, I smothered my newborn puppy. After that break-up I made sure that I pursued that every woman was the same and not to love as much but make sure that it is enough just to keep her happy. Like I said earlier, I have been treating my lover like crap for the FIRST YEAR still hurt from my past relationship. I had to made a decision this year literally of January 1st that I will be faithful, love, and show more concern to her heart. But I feel that is too late and I do not want to loose another lover because I have showed her I'm ready for the future of us. To her it is just not enough! I buy her gifts, take her on dates, give her the loving, and made sure she came first. Still NOT ENOUGH FOR HER! My attitude tends to prove a big problem in our relationship as well. When she won't listen to me and stop being self-centered she blows up and say shut up, whatever dude, etc. Everyday I think I may have the lost the woman that was always by my side and loved me. When I talk to her in a calm way that concerns me the most; I'm emotional, a character, dramatic, etc, It's like it comes to a point where I can not even tell her on how I feel with her reacting that I'm being judgmental, or criticizing. For example, I told her that in order for me to work more on myself, you haven't worked on nothing on yourself, there's always room for improvement. She blew up and responded, "Why are you so judgmental" and cursed me out and then some. Lately, I kid you not I have been trying so hard to keep my relationship flowing but whatever I do it's not enough, I only do it for my self-satisfactions to her. She told me that she wants to be set free everyday in a different form of speech and I refuse to let her go. I love her. Once again I become in a critical condition and she respond, "Why you so controlling". I always thought maybe because I care more about my relationship than you do. Every single day I have to tell myself that I am attractive, I am intelligent, and I am worth the while. I say this just because she has not has sex with me in two whole weeks, she doesn't even look at me like she use to. Every time I feel I have knowledge on a certain subject, she shoots me down with a no your not right this right, I always feels neglected, not intelligent at all. When we tend to break up, she doesn't care, she feel as if she can find something better. When I tell her I'm walking out that door she say well leave I don't care, and with a smart slur of saying "Live Life Brother".It's like what have I change myself for when I treated her bad she loved me the most I sometimes come across. Do I deserve better! And now I am to a conclusion that she blankly told me I want you to be my friend for two weeks. But when I did she went out the next day and kissed another man. I don't know how much I can deal with this anymore I need HELP! I will wait for whatever to get some results, should I just leave or should I keep fighting and hope for the better.

A healthy successful relationship should require little to no work to "keep it going". The very fact that you're striving and working just to stay with her shows that this relationship is going nowhere at all.

You need to get out of this relationship. Find someone that you actually get along with, someone that you don't have to "work" for to keep.

I understand I need to get out of this relationship but that's the easy way out. I love her and I have hurted her in my past but I really do show that I'm trying to make up for our future. I'm even doing steps like deleting my social websites as if Facebook, Twitter, not being around certain people that gets me tempted to do things like my best friend. I completely understand the easy way but can you please give me a way to work this out, or if you know that it will not work out 100% tell me as if she was scared for life and never return .I really love this woman and I don't want to loose her to no one ever!!

I understand I need to get out of this relationship but that's the easy way out. I love her and I have hurted her in my past but I really do show that I'm trying to make up for our future. I'm even doing steps like deleting my social websites as if Facebook, Twitter, not being around certain people that gets me tempted to do things like my best friend. I completely understand the easy way but can you please give me a way to work this out, or if you know that it will not work out 100% tell me as if she was scared for life and never return .I really love this woman and I don't want to loose her to no one ever!!!

Are you kidding me? Easy way out? What are you talking about? There's no such thing as an easy way out in a relationship that is clearly not working. Leaving is not the "easy" thing to do it's the right thing to do.

Did you not comprehend anything I just said?


A healthy successful relationship should require little to no work to "keep it going".

That means that if you're working just to try and keep the relationship going. It's not healthy nor successful. Stop making childish excuses and leave. You both deserve better.

Are you kidding me? Easy way out? What are you talking about? There's no such thing as an easy way out in a relationship that is clearly not working. Leaving is not the "easy" thing to do it's the right thing to do.

Did you not comprehend anything I just said?



That means that if you're working just to try and keep the relationship going. It's not healthy nor successful. Stop making childish excuses and leave. You both deserve better.

Ah, I understand so can you give me some key steps on how to make it through the break up?