Ok so let me start by saying that I am currently from South America and studying in the states. On my vacation to South America I had a relationship with this girl that I know her family, and her family knows mine. She is 19, me 24. We kept it between us but it rapidly became known by her family and mine. We were madly in love until they day I had to leave. We both decided to keep it going and not mind the distance. Everything was great she even told me she had thoughts of us getting married, even told me she told this guy that tried with her that she was with me. Her family was OK with it, well the ones I know, my family as well.

Until one day 4 months into the long distance she tells me that she needs to talk to me. She tells me she saw her ex boyfriend and this boyfriend happens to be her first boyfriend she had. She tells me she needs space to think things through, although at first I wasn't very happy about this, but I was kind of happy that she was honest with me. She decided to keep us going since she didn't want to get ahead of herself, but then the ex started talking to her and get to visit her. Now I get really worried.

She tells me that this ex was so hard to forget, she still misses him although she and him don't really workout. I went from being happy, to sad and confused. I asked her one day if she has feelings for me, she tells me she does and strong feelings she is worried but wants to have me as her friend. She says she doesn't know if in the future us can work out. I know the distance sucks but I really love this girl I can fool my mind but not my heart. My head tells me to forget her, but my heart can't . Will she be back? Is she just stringing me along just in case her relationship fails? Let her work it out between this guy and let her reach out to me when she figures out what she wants, if she misses me and wants me back, and when she does come back, should I tell her to come to the US, because know I am having second thoughts on going over there.

I was willing to sacrifice everything for her. Why doesn't she just tell me NO, and bring some closure. Facebook is our way to contact each other and I have decided not to bother her if she is online, not talk to her (remind everyone that we used to talk everyday). And let her figure out her things, and let her reach me.. kind of like a no contact. If she reaches me I am not going to ignore her but I don't need her in my life, I want her in my life. Is there any hope for us?

And I recently saw a picture of both of them together. :( I was really angry but I try not to be jealous, she has not erased the pictures between us of the time I was there, and the time we spent together. I am trying so hard not to freak out, since that will get her thinking I am needy and clingy, and I am not jealous well I try not to be since every guy is jealous. For now I have decided to continue doing my things, since is my future we are talking about...

I will see what happens I know we are both still young specially her and maybe with time a lot of things can happen and I know distance causes physical loneliness. I will wait all the time possible and if by then she has NOT made an effort to contact me or see me, then I know its over. But by her her saying she doesn't know if in the future it can work... it gives me some sort of hope... I take it like a maybe.. I really see a future with this girl, I guess I just have to be patient. I know there is a saying if you love something and let it go, and it comes back to you, then its meant to be.

How long were you to actually together? Does not sound like it was a very long time.
I'm sure she got all caught up in the fantasy of it all, but once you were gone and she started to face the real world again, she was not that hooked on you.
Leave her alone. It was a vacation fling.



Stop checking her Facebook page, that will help.

:(

Maybe she would realize she is making a mistake and change her mind.


Stop checking her facebook page, that will help.
Well actually is not like that, we were not together for a long time I know that I have to accept that it wasn't well grounded, but she tells me that she can't see it as a vacation fling, because she fell in love with me and cares for me and that I matter to her, and she says she was happy with me, and saying she has strong feelings for me. She sends me mixed signals, maybe she needs to see if this ex works or doesn't, doesn't know what she wants I guess, I am just going to wait you know, because I think maybe she is too young right now, and obviously immature, maybe it would be different with time. We are both in college and the thing is is that is more complicated since her family knows mine very well, and my family knows hers too. Her sister writes to me I have communication too. And she tells me maybe when she grows up she will miss you and will think about me. That's why I am so confused. Its like although it was not too long it was like we knew each other for a long time. I will leave her alone yes. And by saying I will wait I'm not saying that if I meet someone new I will deny them. Its really complicated.


Stop checking her facebook page, that will help.

She tells me that she can just tell me that she doesn't want me and its over that she doesn't like me, but its not like that , she has strong feelings for me.. so I'm so confused..

I asked her one day if she has feelings for me, she tells me she does and strong feelings she is worried but wants to have me as her friend. She says she doesn't know if in the future us can work out.

Sorry guy, but unless you are going back to be around her, this is one you forget, and go about your business because she is obviously not the long distance type of girl. I think you cut communications with her sister also, and please no more news through people or social networks.

You may have been in love and she was too, but since you are not there, she is definitely exploring other options. At least she was some what honest about it.

LDR's are hard for most people.

Okay so we are like in d same situation... except for the fact that your relationship is a long distance one and mine we are just a kilometer away...
Well don't complicate things... I know its really hard to let go... but as you said lets just take it this way... if it's meant to be she will return to you... and as for now set her free... not because you want to but because you love her... she was at least honest with you the moment she had that feeling that she was not over her ex... think what will happen if she tell you about this after a year of being together like what happened to me. So relax now don't stress... time will reveal and tell everything...