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Ravendark
Sep 9, 2012, 12:16 PM
I got dumped by my GF this morning. She said that she does not feel as she did. She says that she does not know why things have changed or when, just that things are different and that we can't be together anymore.

We have been under some strain recently but I thought we had got over the issues that we had. Apprently we have not.

We had been together for 7 months, and with the exception of the last 4 weeks or so where we have had some issues (Ive been down due to money worries and she has a new social group she is active with and I'm not included in (I did not fit in, not my kind of people). We had been blisfully happy, got on surberbly he family loved me, I was totally included. The word Love was used, and meant on both sides.

How do I deal with it? In a single sentence, in 10 seconds worth of air I've just lost the focul point of my life for the last 7 months. And with it most of my friends, I'm not sure I can see her again, even to be friends, there are too many memories, its too painful for me.

She was my first proper girlfreind, I feel totally crushed and confused. She admits that we had something good, that we made each other happy, that we are well suited and that there was love between us. I asked her if such things were worth saving, worth fighting to retain, to build upon in the future? She said she could not/would not fight for it, that things had changed.

She was so upset, crying none stop, barely able to stand upright so this clearly hurt her terribly. Yet she did it anyway.

How do I deal with it? it's the lack of reason for the loss of love I fail to understand, she told me "you have done nothing wrong, your lovely, I and all my family think your great, were well suited and we were happy". Yet she throws it away.

What do I do?

Lostmybff
Sep 18, 2012, 01:03 PM
I understand your hurt. My fiancé said those exact words to me but after 6 and 1/2 years and an engagement ring. All you can do is try and remain calm and don't over react and go crazy. Don't bombard her with emails, phone calls, text messages. Let her contact you. If she does be nice but don't act desperate. Believe me.. I did all those crazy things the first 2 weeks which drove him further away. We are now talking to each other again almost every day and I'm hoping he sees that we were meant to be together. I am however, going out with friends and keeping busy. 7 months isn't really a very long time and I don't know how old you are but if I were you I wouldn't wait around. If she comes back and wants to try again and you still have feelings for her go for it. But start to move forward in your life. Hope this helps!

JaeBeam
Sep 18, 2012, 01:25 PM
Hey, hang in there. This is a bad pain, and many of us around here have felt something similar.

Look at the stickied posts above for a wealth of good advice. The stickies also let you know that your story is shared by many, and for some reason that seems to help many of us.

My story is similar. 2 years together, I bought a condo that we shopped for, moved in together, and 5 months later I'm on the receiving end of a break up conversation. This went down a week ago, and I'm still in denial.

I've found that talking to my friends and family has helped me get through the moment to moment pain. Making certain that I go out and exercise and socialize with friends, even though I really just want to go home and cry.

Look at the No Contact sticky, and see how it can apply to your situation. I need to go NC in a week when my ex finally moves into her own apartment.