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alijajo
Sep 6, 2012, 04:49 PM
I was with my boyfriend for 5 years and I not him decided to get married because I felt we needed to. So we did despite him cheating and putting friends before the children and myself. After we got married I found pics of his private part to other women I was hurt but I stayed. Then we had to travel out of state so he can handel his business but instead he decided to hang out and leave me at home and stay gone until the next morning with his homeboy. It was beginning to be too much I was finding condoms on him and he said he was holding it for his homeboy.so I decided enough was enough and I left so I ended up being hurt and vulnerable and slept with a guy who has helped me get a job a place a car etc.. I just want to know was I wrong for sleeping around after he cheated my husband has been sleeping around and I'm waiting for our divorce to finalize we both moved on mutually but can our sins be forgiven so we can move on with our relationships

alijajo
Sep 6, 2012, 04:55 PM
I also feel really bad for what I have done and I'm starting to push the friend away but we have totally stopped messing around and he wants to marry me and he is deeply in love with me and is willing to do what it takes to be in my children as well as my life for eternity and he wants to make the step with God just as I do

alijajo
Sep 6, 2012, 04:58 PM
And my tubes are tied so I can't have any children. He wants one because he doesn't have any but I just want to know if we move in the right direction will God forgive us and let us move on and remarry with him first in our lives

Homegirl 50
Sep 6, 2012, 05:38 PM
You should not have slept with this guy while you were still married, no matter what your ex husband did. But that is between you and God.
If this guy wants to marry you I don't know why it would not be OK, but how long have you known this guy?
Make sure this is what you want to do and for the right reason.
I wish you both well.

Fr_Chuck
Sep 6, 2012, 05:39 PM
He is worthless and I don't know why you even married him. He was like that then, like that now and will stay like it.

You are for some silly reason believing lies and trying to even make excuse for him.
The sooner you pack your bags the better

But leave to be on your own, don't leave one for another. Learn to live and by on your own first