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eddiegarzon
Sep 6, 2012, 01:40 PM
My pregnant girlfriend gas left me for like two weeks now and she's already seeing some one else. I told her that I wanted to be their for her and the baby if they ever need anything . But I don't understand why she still calls me just to talk and sometimes to tell me how her and her new boy friend are having some problems because he's over jealous and didn't trust her but she also calls me to tell me how their going to be doing all the things that I always wanted us to do when we were together like how their going to get a car and go back to school. What should I do should I keep talking to her when she calls me and comfort her when she's having problems or should I just tell her to stop calling me until the baby is born ? I want to comfort her if her new boyfriend makes her feel like but it still hurts me when she tells me about all the good things that their doing that I wanted to do wit her. Do u think she's only telling me those things to hurt me ? What should I do ? Any advise

Homegirl 50
Sep 6, 2012, 01:57 PM
Why did she leave you?
Leave her alone. Tell her not to contact you until the baby is born. There is no reason for her to be talking to you if she is seeing someone else.

eddiegarzon
Sep 6, 2012, 03:50 PM
Why did she leave you?
Leave her alone. Tell her not to contact you until the baby is born. There is no reason for her to be talking to you if she is seeing someone else.

She left me because she tought that I was seeing someone else some one called her phone and told her that I didn't love her and that I was tired of her and wanted her out if my house she didn't know who called her they called private but she beloved them . And when she was all sad the guy she is wit comforted her and know he has her I think that that same guy was the one that called her . I love her So much and still want to be wit her so bad I don't know what to do .

Homegirl 50
Sep 6, 2012, 04:03 PM
I don't know her and I don't know the full situation but she went from you to someone else awfully fast. Was there other things going on?
How far along is she in her pregnancy? How long were you two together?

eddiegarzon
Sep 6, 2012, 04:12 PM
I don't know her and I don't know the full situation but she went from you to someone else awfully fast. Was there other things going on?
How far along is she in her pregnancy? How long were you two together?

We were together for 4 months and she's 3 months pregnant she didn't like the fact that I smoked weed but I told her that I would stop . We were good then she started getting some of her hormones or so that's what I thought because she obioslly loved me enough to want to have my baby. But on like on the third month her old high school boyfriend found her and that guy was her first love so he started putting things in her head to make her love me less and for her to fall for him again I don't know how she could do that to be .I want to keep contact wit her because if her new relationship doesn't work out I want to be their to pic her up .I always wanted a family I never wanted to be a single dad . But I don't know if I'm only hurting myself by still talking to her. She calls me everyday while her boyfriend is at work because she wants to know what I'm doing What the heck why is she doing this

Homegirl 50
Sep 6, 2012, 04:41 PM
She sounds young and immature. How old are the both of you?
She is carrying your child, I don't know how she thinks things are going to work out with this other guy.
But you two didn't really know each other that long either. Why you would bring a child into a one month relationship is beyond me. How long ago had she broke up with this guy before she hooked up with you?
I don't think she knows who or what she wants and being pregnant does not help.
Are you willing to take her back if she comes back and not worry that she will skip again? This is quite a mess you two have gotten into and there is a child who will be in the middle.

eddiegarzon
Sep 6, 2012, 05:19 PM
She sounds young and immature. How old are the both of you?
She is carrying your child, I don't know how she thinks things are going to work out with this other guy.
But you two didn't really know each other that long either. Why you would bring a child into a one month relationship is beyond me. How long ago had she broke up with this guy before she hooked up with you?
I don't think she knows who or what she wants and being pregnant does not help.
Are you willing to take her back if she comes back and not worry that she will skip again? This is quite a mess you two have gotten into and there is a child who will be in the middle.

Honestly I would take her back because I really did want a family wit her and just don't know why this would happen to me . It's been like 5 years since they were together . I respected her and trusted her to the fullest and this guy still manage to sneak himself in and take what was the best thing that has happened to be .right now my heart is heavy and haven't been able eat I'm all depressed and I just want to get through this . This break up wouldn't be so hard if she wasn't pregnant and what she did wouldn't hurt so much but it does because I couldn't imaging a girl doing thst to someone so quick when she's carring his baby. I would understand if I had cheated on her but I never did .I just don't understand why .but do you think if in case they don't work out it would be a good Idea to take her back ? Or should I just let go and wait till she has the baby ? If so do you know what right me as the father have to having joined custody of the baby?

Homegirl 50
Sep 6, 2012, 05:33 PM
You have every right to joint custody. Are you working? How old is she? I think you need to just forget about her coming back, I don't know that I'd even take her back, but I would make sure I'd have access to my child. Are you sure she was pregnant and still pregnant, or the baby is yours? I just can't imagine her going to this guy so quickly and she being pregnant with your child. It just does not make sense.

eddiegarzon
Sep 6, 2012, 06:10 PM
You have every right to joint custody. Are you working? How old is she? I think you need to just forget about her coming back, I don't know that I'd even take her back, but I would make sure I'd have access to my child. Are you sure she was pregnant and still pregnant, or the baby is yours? I just can't imagine her going to this guy so quickly and she being pregnant with your child. It just does not make sense..

Yea she is pregnant I wanted to go to the ultra sound I got out of work early and she beverages called me till after she got out she brought me the pics but that en hurt me thst she didn't take me she is young she's 20 .I am working full time and going to school full time Monday through Fri 6 to 10 she just told me that when the baby is born that the only chance she's going to let me see my baby is at her house with her and her boyfriend she doesn't want to let me bring the baby to my house wit my family
I don't know why she's acting like that

genny1313
Sep 6, 2012, 06:22 PM
Clarify things with her, explain to her that you did not leave her for some one else and that you really want to take care of YOUR child, that other man might hurt the baby if he's hurting her. Try, not thinking about her but rather thinking of getting the unit together, for the baby.

eddiegarzon
Sep 6, 2012, 07:23 PM
clarify things with her, explain to her that you did not leave her for some one else and that you really want to take care of YOUR child, that other man might hurt the baby if he's hurting her. Try, not thinking about her but rather thinking of getting the unit together, for the baby.

I am trying but she's not getting it just because right now she thinks that she's happy she's fine I'm the one that's hurting. I just don't understand that if she's do happy why does she call me to tell me about things that are happening wit her and her relationship I would understand if I had something to do wit the baby but no she tells me things about her family her work and how her boyfriend doesn't trust her and like that and then she will bring up things like that he wants her to move in and thst she lends him the car and as far as to tell me thst she already slept wit him like What the heck who does that I think she only wants to hurt me. But the last time she wad all sad because he was being all dramatic because he got all mad and started talking to her gay best friend thst he made her stop talking to him because he was all jealous and I was their to comfort her and make her feel better but I think I only made things worse because she called me to tell me that they were going to work things out when I told her that s person like that didn't deserve her that she was better than that .when we were together I let her have her gay best friend because I trusted her and now this guy takes that from her and she just lets him. So I don't know what to think don't know why she still calls me

Homegirl 50
Sep 7, 2012, 07:48 AM
She can't set of visitation for the baby, a judge will do that. You make sure you look in to joint custody when the baby is born.
She calls you with all of this mess because you let her. Tell her you don't want to hear anything about her relationship. You tell her the only time you want to her from her is when it is concerning the baby.
She sounds like a very immature and selfish person and I would not take her back. How old are you?
She left you and now she is walking all over you. Put a stop to it!

eddiegarzon
Sep 7, 2012, 01:55 PM
She can't set of visitation for the baby, a judge will do that. You make sure you look in to joint custody when the baby is born.
She calls you with all of this mess because you let her. Tell her you don't want to hear anything about her relationship. You tell her the only time you want to her from her is when it is concerning the baby.
She sounds like a very immature and selfish person and I would not take her back. How old are you?
She left you and now she is walking all over you. Put a st. op to it!

I guess I am leting her walk all over me I just wanted to keep contact because really do want to have a complete family and I thought that if I was their for her when she's all down and their to pic her up when she's down that maybe she would give me another chance. I'm 25

odinn7
Sep 7, 2012, 02:43 PM
She's just using you. She's with him and getting whatever he's giving her while she's getting her emotional support from you.

I don't know about you but I wouldn't want to be there for her in a situation like this. Tel;l her if she chooses to be with him, then stay with him and leave you out of it.

eddiegarzon
Sep 7, 2012, 02:48 PM
She's just using you. She's with him and getting whatever he's giving her while she's getting her emotional support from you.

i don't know about you but I wouldn't want to be there for her in a situation like this. Tel;l her if she chooses to be with him, then stay with him and leave you out of it.

What if she breaks up with him should I be their for her

odinn7
Sep 7, 2012, 02:49 PM
That's up to you but it doesn't look like she's doing that, does it?

eddiegarzon
Sep 7, 2012, 04:07 PM
That's up to you but it doesn't look like she's doing that, does it?

She told me this morning that they got into a fight because he wanted to go to a club wit his friends wit out her she told me that she was going to end it but I don't believe her her family just because theve know her new boyfriend for a while from back then they want her to give him another chance when me the father of her baby the family doesn't see me Like that because I never git to meet all her family just her mom brother and her grandpa

Homegirl 50
Sep 7, 2012, 04:51 PM
This is a very flaky girl and you seem to be living in La La land. What if she comes back to you and then leaves again in a few months?
Talk to a lawyer about what rights you will have with this baby and leave this crazy girl alone. Does this guy know she is pregnant?

Enigma1999
Sep 7, 2012, 05:04 PM
God help this poor child! You. She. Her boyfriend. All three of you sound like a bunch of misfits.

Tell her that once the baby is born to speak to a judge about visitation rights. Until then, Leave her alone! Don't respond to her calls/texts.

You are condoning her bad behavior.

eddiegarzon
Sep 7, 2012, 05:23 PM
God help this poor child! You. She. Her boyfriend. All three of you sound like a bunch of misfits.

Tell her that once the baby is born to speak to a judge about visitation rights. Until then, Leave her alone! Don't respond to her calls/texts.

You are condoning her bad behavior.

I don't want visitation rights I want to be able to bring my baby to my house to meet her food and grandparents I can't go visit my baby by myself wit her and her boyfriend that's not fair to me

Enigma1999
Sep 7, 2012, 05:31 PM
I don't want visitation rights I want to be able to bring my baby to my house to meet her food and grandparents I can't go visit my baby by my self wit her and her bf that's not fair to me

You might want to consider posting in the "law" section regarding custody of the child once born.

I am not too sure about the legalities when it comes to custody. There are members who can help guide you.

Relationship wise... I can gibe advice, and my advice is for you to leave her alone for now. For now. Her issues with her boyfriend are not your concern, nor problem. She needs to understand that.

Homegirl 50
Sep 7, 2012, 07:09 PM
For one thing she probably won't even be with this guy by the time the baby is born. We have advised you to get visitation set up so that you will probably be able to take the baby for weekends or visit with you at your home.
You guys made a baby after only knowing each other a month. Had you used your head and taken the time to get to know her, she probably would have been gone before this child was even conceived.
You two have just made a mess.
Leave the girl alone, get some legal counsel to make sure of your rights before this baby is born.

Homegirl 50
Sep 7, 2012, 07:12 PM
I don't want visitation rights I want to be able to bring my baby to my house to meet her food and grandparents I can't go visit my baby by my self wit her and her bf that's not fair to me
That is what visitation rights are. You can have visits with the child in your home. You can try to get joint custody. How old are you?