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xoxo121
Sep 4, 2012, 11:45 PM
We been doing good together like whole one year we did everything perfectly no fights, no arguments, no screaming at each other all we shared is love. I was afraid of one thing that if her parents force her into some other relationship and I told her about this thing she always said you don't have to worry my parents are not that kind who will force me and make me marry to some other one and she always said I willl keep trying my parents to convince them for you but don't know suddenly on 7 August she deleted me from her bbm contacts, blocked me from twitter. When I asked the reason she said that her mom took her phone by mistake and she saw our chat history and saw my pics :/. For that moment I believed her and didn't contacted her as she told me not to contact her and her parents might call me so I don't have to answer their call I told her that lets give it a move and let me try talking to your parents but she didn't agreed, before all this started she told me that her phone mmc got damaged and she lost all data than how her mo read chat history and saw my pics :/. I really want to workout on my relationship with her because I just gave up everything to keep up things with her and now I'm in middle of no where. She still doesn't answer my phone call and just ignoring my texts and I know she's reading every single one of them she replies to the ttexts when I say her that I will cometalk to her mom and stuffs and than she gets scared and replys and now she saying she's engaged :/ as she told she would everything to convince. She asked for space and it's a month now but I kept doing her texts and she replied only when she had a mood to reply and now from 26 August she isn't replying and day before yesterday I did her a text that I'm going crazy in here I need answers I'm stucked and confused I will come by your home to talk with you n if necessary will talk to your mom she simply replied I'm engaged and than when asking on how everything happened she didn't said a thing and started like being mad at me :/. Like from no where this all is happening I been tolerating a lot and she isn't saying me that she loves me or miss me and isn't even saying that she wants me to leave and stuffs just ignoring me and said I told you to give me some space and you neevr listen than I said I always listened to you and did everything I gave up my all to keep with you I always understood you in everything and stuffs she says why you want to come up and talk to my mom and why you wanan come to my home ohh I guess you are threating me :/ and said I will say everything to my dad and threatened me :o. I told her that I want to come up to see and know the things that you are hiding from me. I even told her don't u feel guilty about a thing and talk to me we will sort out stuffs I even told her I won't compare her to any other girls just say me what are the things going on from 7 August. Than she replied you are trying to make me weak I know :/ I said I didn't ever tried to make you weak instead you yourself know I always did my best to support you and make things good fro you than she replied that I'm doing and been doing all this for our sake so no one gets huurts :/ and said that I didn't know it would make it worse and said please don't try to text me and if there's anything I will text you hope you understand :/ she isn't thinking that how I'm feeling here dying inside every single day. I really want to make things goood should I give her space? If yes than how long? I know she loves me don't know what's keeping her pushing me... and plus when we started to talk things were bad with her mom and dad she always felt bad for that and I made up things good for her with her mom and dad. I think maybe she's scared that things won't go bad again with them, hope not, but if things will go bad I will be with her to make things good with her and her family?? I need a good help and suggestions :9 I really have no wheree to go now I stopped seeeing my friends just to give her time so she feels that how important she is to me.. I hope I get good solutions!

joypulv
Sep 5, 2012, 12:13 AM
Don't you see what happened?
Her parents have arranged a marriage for her and she has accepted. Why, only she and they know. Probably because they promised a large dowry and probably because they threatened to disown her if she didn't.
DON'T stop seeing your friends. You need them now more than ever.
I'm sorry this happened but I can't believe how blind you are being. It's not going to go back to the way it was.
What part of the world are you in?

xoxo121
Sep 5, 2012, 12:19 AM
I know but I don't believe that if she is engaged I have been going by her home every night but nothing seemed like there's an engagement, there wasn't any kind of celebration for engagement and stuffs but when I said her that I will be waiting for you she must say me don't wait or something and before a week she told me that she loves my patience :/. I just want to meet up with her and know every thing that happeend!

joypulv
Sep 5, 2012, 12:24 AM
Stop going by her house or you could get arrested.
The engagement might be to a man she's never met, who is away in school or a job, who knows.
Stop saying you want to this and you want to that. It sounds childish. You can't have what you want. I'm being mean for your own good. Your only hope is if she can't stand the man, but she may be married by then. Don't count on ever seeing her again. I'm sorry this happened. You don't have even one mutual friend who can find out why she agreed to marry someone else? If not, you have to let it go and suffer like millions of us do every day.

xoxo121
Sep 5, 2012, 12:32 AM
She doesn't like him as she always told me that her parents likes a guy for her and I told her that I'm afraid if your parents forced you she said always my parents won't ever force me to marry someone with whom I don't want to be and instead she said she will do her all best in making her mom convince for me. I know things are really sensitive at this point.. I don't know anyone from her side but I remember she told one of her friend about me! I will try talking to her but I know one thing that she loves me truly but don't know what's the thing that making her do this all..

joypulv
Sep 5, 2012, 12:38 AM
Yes, talk to the friend. I don't know how much more total strangers can do, online. We aren't there to hear what she has to say. Maybe her parents found another guy and she is OK with him, even if she doesn't love him. Maybe it's all about not losing her family, or he has a lot of money and a good career. I'm just guessing!

We can give you emotional support any time.

xoxo121
Sep 5, 2012, 12:44 AM
Yeah I hope her friend could help me out in knowing that what exactly is happening! I don't know all I know is that she loved me and she was ready for everything with me. I even told her by end of this year we will get engaged I bought a ring for her as well to give her on our anniversary :(. I was and still am really looking forward with her.. I'm checking her twitter from my friends twitter as he's following her she didn't tweeted a thing form 31 aug as she tweeets daily..!

joypulv
Sep 5, 2012, 01:52 AM
I am telling you to give up all hope because I consider it my self-appointed job to take the side of probability. Believe me, I know it hurts. We all have been through lost love, I think. I'm probably 3 times your age so have hurt plenty.
Good luck..
One thing you could do is order flowers and have them delivered... no note, just your name.

xoxo121
Sep 5, 2012, 02:59 AM
Yea I been thinking of sending her flowers with no note and not even my name on it because what if her parents receive the flowers and se my name on it and than make problems for here! And I'm haing a good job getting paid 1,330 dollars monthly I can look after her and she always says that she want to work because she studied not for just being a house wife

joypulv
Sep 5, 2012, 05:34 AM
Send the flowers to all of them, with your name on them. After all, you are wooing her parents as much as her.
I don't see how they can be angry about that. As long as they haven't seen you cruising by their house a lot. They might have, you know.