audreypillsbury
Sep 2, 2012, 02:13 PM
Hi. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 10 months. He is going to be a senior in high school and I am going to be a sophomore in high school.
At the beginning of our relationship, I didn't mind when he went out with his friends. I understood that we both need to live our separate lives and not isolate ourselves. I still believe in this. However I do get very jealous. He is the varsity quarterback, star baseball player, and has the most charming personality. So basically he's every girls dream. I am confident in myself but still easily get jealous.
Anyway, the main issue is that whenever he is with his friends he drinks. I on the other hand do not drink and don't really put myself in that atmosphere. He has explained to me numerous times that he is no different when he's drunk and being intoxicated would never cause him to do anything with another girl . It used to be that I got worried because he would cheat on me but now I know that's not the case. Now I'm worried that I'm just a "second option". I hate the feeling that every night I am not with him, he is drinking.
I have asked him to tell me when we are texting if he is drinking and he now does this. But as soon as I read the text that says " just a heads up my and the boys are having a few beers" my stomach plunges. My emotions go blank and I instantly start acting like a to him. I just don't understand why I get like this. Lately it has been every night where we get in fights and we never have a problem with arguing... I hate being mad at him but I just can't help myself... and I worry that pretty soon he is going to get annoyed with me and not want anything to do with me since I constantly worry and get upset when he drinks...
Any suggestions ?
Thanks :)
At the beginning of our relationship, I didn't mind when he went out with his friends. I understood that we both need to live our separate lives and not isolate ourselves. I still believe in this. However I do get very jealous. He is the varsity quarterback, star baseball player, and has the most charming personality. So basically he's every girls dream. I am confident in myself but still easily get jealous.
Anyway, the main issue is that whenever he is with his friends he drinks. I on the other hand do not drink and don't really put myself in that atmosphere. He has explained to me numerous times that he is no different when he's drunk and being intoxicated would never cause him to do anything with another girl . It used to be that I got worried because he would cheat on me but now I know that's not the case. Now I'm worried that I'm just a "second option". I hate the feeling that every night I am not with him, he is drinking.
I have asked him to tell me when we are texting if he is drinking and he now does this. But as soon as I read the text that says " just a heads up my and the boys are having a few beers" my stomach plunges. My emotions go blank and I instantly start acting like a to him. I just don't understand why I get like this. Lately it has been every night where we get in fights and we never have a problem with arguing... I hate being mad at him but I just can't help myself... and I worry that pretty soon he is going to get annoyed with me and not want anything to do with me since I constantly worry and get upset when he drinks...
Any suggestions ?
Thanks :)