I live at a residence. I am 23 year old female. There is this guy that I became obsessed with. He tutored me in a subject I was having difficulty in and ever since then I have fallen for him. We use to be just friends. Or someone I use to sit with a lot because I enjoyed talking to him. It was all very carefree. He tutored me 3 months ago once. About one month ago I noticed his behaviour towards me changed. He always wants to sit with me, tries to talk to me as much as possible. There is no doubt in my mind that he likes me. Having a huge obsessive crush on him was talking a toll on me. I couldn't concentrate on my studies. In fact I haven't been studying for 6 weeks. I also started to lose interest recently and I am starting to find other guys to be attractive again. He is a nice and smart guy. These guys are so hard to come by. I really don't know if I still like him. I can't continue thinking about him all the time, because its really affecting my studies. Should I just stop thinking about him and let him go. So I can fully focus on my studies. But I don't want to because what if I let something really good go? I hope you understand what I mean. I have never been in a relationship nor have I had my feelings reciprocated in this way. I am also not sure if I like him anymore. He is not the best looking guy, I'm not either. He is slightly younger than me but that doesn't bother me. I am Asian but I was brought up in a Western country. He is Asian but he was brought up in Asia. That bothers me slightly too. I don't want to sound like a racist against my own race. But girls like me, normally don't date guys like him. If you know what I mean. When I am with him I don't feel anything anymore. But afterwards, I can't stop thinking about him. Maybe I don't really like him. Just craving for a boyfriend or intimacy. I don't want to give too much away. In case I get recognised. I don't know if he is the right one for me. I know he likes me. I wish I never fell for anyone at a residence. You see each other for meals all the time. He sits with me all the time and its getting awkward. I mean how long is he going to keep doing this, it is unsustainable. What is he going to do when he stops liking me? I can't talk to him like I use to when I just saw him as friend. Conversation is just difficult now. I don't know what to do. For some reason I don't feel comfortable calling him or asking to have coffee with him. I'm sorry for this long essay. I hope I am understandable. Its hard to get my thoughts across sometimes. And I am one confused girl. And I meet lots of guys at college/residence. Sometimes I feel that I would connect with other guys better than him. Also I am quite an awkward person. I also dreamed about him last night. I dreamed I saved him from drowning but his parents still didn't like me/ approve of me. People say to follow my heart but how can I when I don't know how my heart feels?

With all this uncertainty, you have answered your own question. If you can't study and concentrate with this guy on your mind, leave him alone.
It does not sound like you can handle a relationship right now and there is really no need for you to have one at this point. Get your education and worry about a relationship when you don't have your studies to worry about.