So they is this girl I used to date on and off for 3 years names Tia. She was my first love although I had countless girls after her.

We did everything together and I do admit that sometimes our relationship wasn't healthy. I cheated she cheated, we said hurtful things to one another, but no matter what we always found ourselves back in each others lives.

One day I couldn't take the make up and break up thing , so I ended it for good. We started seeing other people and trying to move on..

It was a year and some months that I haven't talked to her and I thought that I got my head on my shoulders for us to be "friends". I hit her up on Facebook asking her how she been and we both found out our feelings didn't change for one another. We aren't dating now but we want to give it a shot since we both claim that we love each other and we've grown up from what we used to do..

So, if you were in my shoes do you think I'm doing the right thing.

If it doesn't work out do you think it will be a disaster or do you think u both could laugh and then be understanding friends? Worst case scenario doesn't sound too bad u can always just hit her up on FB.

Muffin, logic says to remember that they are an ex for a reason. However, if you are both willing to move forward from the past and work together with patience and understanding, it could work.

When you think back over the past, were the mistakes those of two immature people unable and unwilling to put the communication and work into the relationship to keep it healthy and growing? Have you both let the past go? Do you think that you can now trust each other?

If you decide to date again, make some ground rules.

1. The past is the past. You are starting over from the beginning. Take it slow and get to know each as the people you are today.

2. Sharing memories is fun. But don't live in them.

3. Past hurts and upsets will not be used as ammunition in current disagreements. If there are any lingering hard feelings or hurts work them out before trying to be a couple again

Take things slow. Communicate with each other.