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inlovejodi
Aug 31, 2012, 08:41 AM
Hello . I have lie to my boyfriend about my age because he's 20 and I am 16 and he fine out I was 16 now I scare because I really love him and I no he love me but I think if he want me and no he's going out and coming bck and am at he's house now what should I do go or stay and I don't want to leave him
whit17
Aug 31, 2012, 09:59 AM
Well, honey, you have yourself in a pickle. First of all, you should never lie to your boyfriend. Its only going to cause more problems. You need to tell him your real age, and if he really loves you and cares about you, he will stay with you. If he doesn't stay, then he truly was not worth your time. I'm sure you are a beautiful girl and if he ditches you, there will be all kinds of guys who will want to be with you. Just be careful and stay strong, come what may. But you have to tell him the truth, and its better to do it sooner than later.
Cat1864
Aug 31, 2012, 10:39 AM
Hello . I have lie to my boyfriend about my age because he's 20 and I am 16 and he fine out I was 16 now I scare because I really love him and I no he love me but I think if he want me and no he's going out and coming bck and am at he's house now what should I do go or stay and I don't want to leave him
May I ask what state/country you live in? How old did he think you were? Has there been any sexual contact of any type?
You won't like this but you need to leave his house and go home. You need to get used to the idea that he probably will not want a relationship with you.
Understand that there are several factors besides your lying to him. At 20, he has greater freedom than you do and doesn't need parental permission to do what he wants. He is probably expecting or wanting a consenting adult relationship including sexual contact and sex. Depending on where you live, he could be violating age of consent laws just by giving you a passionate kiss or touching your chest through your clothes. In more places, intercourse could get him arrested for statutory rape. I doubt he would want to go to jail and register as a sex offender because a 16 year old lied to him.
This isn't a matter of 'love'. This could be a legal issue for him. Do your parents/guardians know you are dating a 20 year old? If not, why?
odinn7
Aug 31, 2012, 02:35 PM
if he really loves you and cares about you, he will stay with you. If he doesnt stay, then he truly was not worth your time.
Or, you know, depending on where they are, he could just be in legal trouble... no biggie though because if he loves her, he will stay!
Fr_Chuck
Aug 31, 2012, 04:35 PM
If he really loves you he will stay ( unless he is arrested if you are underage in your area)
So he has not know the truth, it was stupid of you to lie, since he was going to find out anyway