Hi, I'm 26 years old virgin, I never have sex with anyone in fact I never felt to have sex. I had breakup with my boyfriend when I was 19. After that I tried to be in relationship but couldn't make it with anyone. I always have a feeling like boys, my likes and dislikes everything. I like to dress up like boys and look like them but l look like a normal girl. These days I'm attracted towards girls I don't know why, from my childhood most of the time I have seen myself was a boy in dreams. Once I dreamed I'm kissing my best friend (girl) I was shocked when I awake because I don't had any sexual feeling for her.

Now every time I'm watching girls, whenever I'm going out, or on internet and I don't bother to look at boys. I don't want to have sex with girls knowing that its against my religion, culture, society and my family will never support it. I don't like girls doing oral sex and I don't want to do that but I'm getting attracted to girls. I'm confused. I want to live with a girl. I don't care about sex and don't want. I just think that I will be happy if I live with a girl and spend my whole life without sex.

I'm not interested in sex at all even whenever my boyfriend used to kiss me I never felt anything for him. What happened if I marry a boy and he would not be happy with me because the reason of my breakup was that my boyfriend said you are not like the girl I want to marry and I have heavy voice. When I was in college my friends used to laugh at me and says your voice does not match your personality because I'm slim and smart like normal girl.

Please help me. I think like I'm a lesbian, that's why I'm attracted towards girls, couldn't make my relationship with boys. I'm confused cannot concentrate on my work. Please advise, I know I will get lot of negative replys :(

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I don't think you are a lesbian. I think you just trust, and have more value in female company than men. This is not a real problem, so stop trying to define yourself by what others say. You don't have to even be disappointed you didn't succeed with your long ago boyfriend, hell straight woman get dumped too, for whatever reason.

Be happy who you are and do the things you enjoy with those you enjoy, and put to rest this label and burden you put on yourself.

Hi, thanks for your reply. It gives me positive thinking but how to avoid watching at girls I'm trying to ignore but what to do? Yesterday I went 4 shopping and one girl in fitting room was trying her dress by watching herself in mirror and I was continuously watching her and felt shame on myself later.

I don't think you are a lesbian. I think you just trust, and have more value in female company than men. This is not a real problem, so stop trying to define yourself by what others say. You don't have to even be disappointed you didn't succeed with your long ago boyfriend, hell straight woman get dumped too, for whatever reason.

Be happy who you are and do the things you enjoy with those you enjoy, and put to rest this label and burden you put on yourself.

Why do you watch them? Why does it make you feel bad? We all watch others to some extent, some more obvious than others.