Hey I'm 23 been living in Australia and partner is 36 from Europe. We met overseas and instantly fell for each other. He asked me to move in with him overseas and I did after a month. We have been together for 8 months now and we usually have sex 3 or more times a week sometimes a few times a day it just really depends he has a higher sex drive and wants sex 3 times a day! He says we don't have enough sex and says we only have it about once a week which is bull.

Anyway last night he went to bed before me and I came in wanting sex and he said he was too tired... but a few hours later he woke up and said he refused me because he wanted me to see how it feels. Then we had a huge fight cause he's pretty much saying that this relationship is doomed because our sex is not enough.

We are meant to be going together traveling next week and he was going to propose to me, all booked and everything but now he's acting like he wants to break up saying he's depressed and that I'm not into. I really do love him and besides that everything is perfect. I'm not sure how to fix this because I don't feel like sex as offend as him. And the more he complains about it and blames me it puts me off.

Has anyone got any advice for me? Would be much appreciated thanks x

This dude is not well. Most couples have sex maybe twice a week. Some have it twice a month and are happy. Sex is important in a relationship, but its not the ONLY thing. This is the type of guy who will start looking elsewhere for sex before very long. Your body is your own and if he can't respect that then chase his away!

The first thing I would do is tell him that he might as well not plan on proposing to you until this is solved. It sounds like he was having second thoughts anyway. You two might actually get along better without marriage looming just yet.
Sit down and talk about how much sex each of you wants, and work out a compromise! Treat the topic like it's a final exam for your relationship. And maybe write down on a calendar how often you do have sex, just for a month, to see who's right about that. Relationships are all about compromises, trades, bargains, whatever you want to call it. You try to accept someone as a whole package, what you don't like along with what you like, and talk about the areas that you want to see if you can work out a deal on. Like how much sex is enough. 3 times a day, forget it. 3 times a week, common. Maybe he would settle for 5, and you would accept that? I know it sounds cold and calculating but women have been trading sex for what they want for thousands of years - you get a nice restaurant or some flowers or a 30 minute massage if he wants extra.

8 months together and you have sex problems? Don't get married, he is still in lust and not ready to do what it takes to make a relationship work for you both.

Maybe you are just learning some things about him you didn't know, so pay attention closely, and see what other flaws the selfish horny b@stard has.

I agree 100%. If this guy carries on with you this way, I can ABSOLUTELY GUARANTEE you he is trying his luck with other ladies... and its only a matter of time before he gets it right. He is a walking AIDS time bomb! Call me harsh if you like, but I'm a man too. I know how they think and quite frankly, most of them are dogs!

Okay this guy is crazy but damn you have sex 3 times a week. I wish my ex had a sex drive like that this only wanted to once every 2 months. But she said I was wrong for questioning her about not having enough sex n a sexless relationship.

I would tell him that the relationship needs to take a more mature course and that sex is important but shouldn't be essential in order for him to maintain his promises such as proposing you. Be strong and prepared for his answer, it could be negative but if he loves you he will think about it