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RomanBellic
Aug 24, 2012, 05:50 PM
He is 45 years old, single, never married, has no kids. I am 27 years old. What I mean when I love him is; I want to be with him for the rest of our lives, I would take care of him, cuddle with him, kiss him, protect him, feed him, help him, never part with him.. etc. Why I haven't made a move yet? I am masculine, I act straight, I do talk about women when I'm near him (I do like women with long hair and long legs, but I do know that I am not bi-sexual) I pretend to be this guy who is not interested in him because I'm afraid to show how I feel about him. I have tried moving on many times. I've been feeling this way everyday since the 2nd month when I started working with him (we work in separate areas,) and it's almost close to 2 years now and I still love him. I drive around the area where he lives just to see a glimpse of him when we're not at work. I just know that he doesn't have any feelings for me after all of these months that have passed by. I really love him. What should I do? I tried looking for other jobs, but found none. My employer really likes me because he told me so, even if I found another job I know that my boss would do his best for me to not leave.

braindamage
Aug 24, 2012, 05:54 PM
Its never any good to get involved with someone you work with OP but no one can help how they feel. Just ask him out for a friendly drink. Get to know him better. Come on who doesn't love going out for a drink after a hard day of work. . Just take it slow and easy. Get to know him first. Plus drink calms your nerves. Just be careful

RomanBellic
Aug 24, 2012, 05:59 PM
@braindamage

He's the kind of guy who doesn't like to be out because of his weight. I tried asking him out for coffee or something that is not alcoholic. I don't drink but he does.

I have worked with this guy for over a year already and it's now close to 2 years. Oh man, I know him a lot too.. he has opened up to me a couple of times and I listened. I just don't know what to do.

RomanBellic
Aug 24, 2012, 06:02 PM
@braindamage

I guess it's sort of like that too to not fall in love with your teacher as an example of falling in love with your own boss. LoL.. oh my. :)

I have been very careful too and he figured that I am mature.

RomanBellic
Aug 24, 2012, 06:36 PM
I have looked for other jobs, but found none. My boss really likes me because he told me so and I know that he would not want me to resign and all. If I left my job, I would be OK.

There was one time when my co-worker ended up in the hospital for 2 days, I cried, I missed him so bad, I even went to the hospital just to check on him but he had his privacy not to show his room number to visitors just family.

garrosh
Oct 8, 2013, 10:39 AM
Hey. I know this is very old, but how did it end? Are you in the same situation?

I'm right now going through something exactly like you; in love with a straight guy. We have become friends, but I fee with every inch of my body that the doesn't love me at all. If we are friends it is because of my advances.

It's terrible when you see the person you love talking about this and that girl he likes or even he is in love to.

I'd like to move away of all this. It's destroying my life, I don't even perform at work as I used to.

Quit is the only way out I'm afraid :(