My husband and I have been married this year on 25 th Feb. 2012. We became best friends prior to getting married and our marriage was very good since we shared such a good relationship.

Things started changing when my in – laws started interfering in our personal life. We started having quarrels each day with one or another issue. After that, my in law came. They were fine with me the previous two times they visited and stayed with us, but this time, she totally changed on me. My in laws manipulated my husband into believing that I was disheartening them and that I was not giving them respect. My husband was never home, so it was my word against theirs. They would go through our stuff in our room when we both were at work and she would stand outside my bedroom and listen to our conversations. I caught her many times, but ignored.

Finally, one day I told my husband and started fighting with me over it. Then, when he asked her, she denied it. After my in laws left, she kept calling my husband when I wasn't around and feeding him negativity about me. She kept crying and doing drama that I hurt her feelings and that is why she left. I didn't understand what was going on because she never did that to me before. If you met her, you would think she's the nicest MIL in the world.

My husband stood there against me with all of them and at that time I mentally broke down and decided that I needed to be separated. There were too many misunderstandings and my husband was not ready to listen. On top of that, his family was just lying left and right to make sure all their bull s*** gets covered up. I also reacted out of anger and so did they. However, despite what he did and his family did, I still want to be with him. He wants divorce. I am very heartbroken and hurt. I love him a lot and I know deep down he loves me too.

But he doesn't have the courage to stand up for me against his family. His problem is not me at this point, his problem is that his family has a problem with me. He fails to realize that we both were perfect before his family came.( please refer to my diary…I have tried maintaining a dairy after my marriage.)

Things went bad when I didn't want to get pregnant so early. I had told my husband about it that I don't want a baby for the first two to three years of marriage as need to complete my studies and built my career before I get engaged with the family. I explained him that growing up a child will require a lot of time, about three two four years, till my baby learn to speak up about his/her needs. By that time it will be too late to start up a career for me.He agreed to me but it seems to be vague now. I feel he had cheated me. Because at the time of intercourse, once it happened to get slip of a condom, I asked him to get me a contraceptive pill he did not... the second I went and got it. But that did not work. I missed my periods that month and informed my husband immediately and asked him to consult a doctor to get sure. But he did not listen to me and I got Pregnant. I Was ignorant about the symptoms of pregnancy, but had a doubt, slowly my health started falling, pressure went too low and had to get admitted in the hospital. There also I asked him continuously to speak to the doctor about abortion if there a positive sign. He said he will do it but did not turn up.

Later when I fought with him over the matter he send his parents to complain my parents. Everybody went against me. Now I am two months pregnant. They start calling and complaining my parents for every thing. Next month is my final exams of Masters, I need to travel for three hours by train to give my exam, but my health does not support any type of travel. There are many other misbehaves that my father in law had done with me, rude to me tried dominating me which I have not mentioned here. He even teaches my husband how to dominate his wife and keep her suppressed.

I feel my life to get messed up. Please help.

He don't deserve u anyway... You've been a perfect wife but he just can't see it. You can't make things work on your own. If he really loves you he will stand up for you no matter what. I think you should move on and don't give the pleasure of seeing you hurt.. Is then that he will want you back.

Have you consulted your own parents on this matter? What do they say?

I am really sorry for the hurt. A marriage must not be like this (at least, the one that we signed up for).

First of all, your husband knows who's right and wrong. Believe me. People know their parents, their flaws and when they're talking bs. Like you said, he's afraid to stand against his family, his MIL actually.
My guess is because she'll make him feel like crap if he ever contradicted her, the way you described her, she's clearly a passive aggressive mean guilt machine.
But he's your husband, it's his duty to defend you from hurtful people including his own parents. He faild this, as you've put it he cheated you.

I understand about the feelings. I wouldn't have replied if it was otherwise. You can't unlove someone and the heart doesn't care about the pain because the heart is very stubborn and extremely stupid.

I hope you really understand what I am about to say. He's only threatening to divorce you because he's practically sure you won't leave him. And that by scaring you, he'll secure your presence. Men with an astonishing maternal presence in their lives tend to get a hold on their partner by making them feel insecure.
I think that he needs you more than you need him, he just takes you for granted.

You don't need to have your word against hers for two reason.
First, he knows his mother so I'm betting that he understands the whole situation.
Second, you're his wife, she's his mother. It's an unfair game.
So, my piece of advice is to have more faith in yourself and your value.
Your MIL thinks you're mistreating her? Well you should start really mistreating her. Good doesn't always work. People who don't know their own limits need to be shocked in order to understand things and respect people.
You can't turn on the being mean switch, but just don't work yourself up. Use sarcasm, make her understand that you don't care one bit about what she's thinking.

It may seem harsh, but that's how you can take your importance back against these hostile people.

And most of all, don't listen to anybody telling you to quit your husband. Aside from this being an obvious solution, this decision should only be yours.

My dear girl
I understand your situation. Completely. You have not wronged anyone. So don't worry about anything things will work out well. Do not have any sort of bitter feelings towards the baby. He/she is born. Now you don't think about the ifs and buts part of it. Once you become a mother of his baby, things will change. Love is the best weapon you can use against any evils. Be very wise in your relationship with your husband. A woman should know where to be humble, obedient and where to show the true attitude.
Look after your health
Look after the family
Take care of your husband
Make him feel that he is being loved more than ever before
And understand one thing. He should never feel that he can manage/ live without you. That's something you need to think about.
Wish you the best.