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foiyo
Aug 22, 2012, 05:23 PM
So my girlfriend of 4 months broke up with me 2 days ago because she said she lost feelings for me because she was gone for so long this summer because she went to her families beach house a lot. I was really hurt when she did because I gave up so much for her and I cried in front of her which I know now is a terrible mistake if I want her back. I never begged her to stay or anything. She kept on saying that she wanted to go back to how she felt at the beginning of the summer when she did really like me. Now I'm really confused because the last day we hung out at first she said everything felt great and it all felt like it used to be but then we had dinner and after dinner she felt all weird and it didn't feel the same in just minutes. Like I don't get how the hell that can happen? After that we decided to go on a break and a few days later she broke up with me. She said that she might end up liking me again when school does start.

She said she wants to remain friends. Like she texted me the day after we broke up like nothing really happened. Now I'm going to try and play everything as best as I can by sticking with LC and only that when she contacts me first. She is currently away for about another week right now and then less then a week after she gets back school starts up again and I feel like I have a chance to get our spark back going again to where she would want to get back together.

Now I know there isn't another guy and I feel like we just weren't ready for her to be gone for so long and that's another reason I want to go back and see if she will give me another chance because she won't go up there for at least the whole school year.

Now I have a few questions. Do you think she still has some feelings for me but just doesn't realize it yet? Do you think we have a chance to get back together when school does start? If so do I talk to her first?

Homegirl 50
Aug 22, 2012, 05:49 PM
You only dated for 4 months, then she was away for awhile. Could very well be the spark you had has fizzled.
You might get it back once school starts but, if it fizzled so soon, there was nothing much there to begin with. How old are you two?

foiyo
Aug 22, 2012, 05:53 PM
Well I'm 15 and she's 16 so she's a grade ahead of me and we might only have one class together if that. Like there is probably going to be one or two of the class we can have together this year so it might be a 50/50 chance. Then actually she went away after we were dating for about 3 months not just over 2. At first our relationship was great and we were seemingly perfect for each other. We never argued and never got into fights or anything and it all got bad when she left so that's just another reason why I think it can come back

Homegirl 50
Aug 22, 2012, 05:57 PM
I don't see what difference that makes. You guys have not been dating that long, then you were away from each other and arguing. Over what? You weren't even around each other.

foiyo
Aug 22, 2012, 06:01 PM
We argued about stupid stuff and I really feel like that kind of pushed her away from me over time because the day she wanted to take the break was fine at first but then we started arguing and it went down hill from there. Like she just wanted less of me I guess once we started arguing

Homegirl 50
Aug 22, 2012, 06:07 PM
Sometimes when people argue over stupid stuff it means they are hiding something. Often it's because they want out and are just looking for reason to break up.

foiyo
Aug 22, 2012, 06:10 PM
Well she never put that in the reason at all and I was always the one that started the arguments. Like she didn't start one and I would always get too mad at really stupid stuff and now I know I really shouldn't have. We talked about our break up for a while and I told her I felt like it was because of that and she said it wasn't. Also I am her first like official boyfriend too so I feel like she just might be confused with her feelings right now. Like she said she still likes me but not enough to retain a relationship right now which could be just to spare my feelings or something too

foiyo
Aug 25, 2012, 01:25 PM
So she texted me again the other day and she was like guess what I'm watching and she said she was watching a movie with her cousins that we were suppose to watch together. First of all I don't really get why she did text me about that? We also texted for a few hours afterwards and we texted like nothing happened and she asked how I was and everything and I said I was fine and she said that she was glad I was fine because she doesn't want me to be hurting at all anymore from what she did.

I really want to know if I can have another chance with her but she is still gone and school doesn't start for about 10 days or so. Should I ask her if she still feels the same about us or is that just too desperate? Also should I text her first again or just wait for her to text me back again?

Homegirl 50
Aug 25, 2012, 07:21 PM
I think you let her be the one to contact you. I think she was just checking on you, don't read too much in to it.
Leave her alone. That is what she wants.