sunshinex0xx
Aug 21, 2012, 07:04 PM
I am a young Mom, and I have three children. None of them have the same father (please don't judge, I'm aware how bad this sounds) My oldest daughter doesn't know that her and her sister don't share the same dad. She is 5. My middle daughter is 3 and my youngest is 2. I married the father of my youngest child. We recently saw a doctor and he was asking about the 'family tree' and I had to explain that my oldest daughter has a different father but she doesn't know, and he said that the younger they are, the better it is to tell them, but I'm conflicted. I'm not sure if 5 is old enough to understand the situation, or if this will cause problems in her social life, or her self esteem... she's a very VERY emotional, sensitive little girl, and her bio dad isn't someone that I would openly agree to being part of her life, but I feel if I wait until she's older that she may resent me for not telling her sooner which could cause problems in her teen years. How/when do I tell her and how do I avoid conflict and self-esteem issues for her?