View Full Version : I'm a bisexual ?
Cherry-doll
Aug 21, 2012, 12:00 PM
I'm 15 year old... almost 16. I've always likes guys but starting the high school I started to like girls. I didn't tell my BFF because if she know she won't look at me the same way she does right now. I have a friend who's bisexual and her relationship is going pretty good. I don't know if I should tell anyone, I'm not sure yet but when I look at girls I feel something inside but I know I don't want to feel like that. I have a boyfriend and I love him but I really like a girl in my school and she's funny, sexy and cute. She make me laugh a lot. Does that mean I'm bisexual? What should I do to not feel like that? Help please... I'm confused
dontknownuthin
Aug 21, 2012, 12:15 PM
One difficulty with kids growing up so fast is that you are pressured to put these sexual labels on yourselves so early in life. You could be straight, bi or gay and there's no rush to find out at your age. You aren't ready to settle down with anyone anyway, and frankly, all these teen sex is not what it's cracked up to be. Just wait - promise yourself you'll wait until you are older and more sure, and definitely until you are in love and in a very committed and proven relationship, before you have sex.
Different things can come into play at your age in figuring this out that can be really confusing. For one thing you can definitely have a "crush" on a best friend that is not really sexual, and it can even have a physical component. We women definitely notice each other in terms of attractiveness and it doesn't mean we are ordered toward having gay relationships, just that we're women and we tend to notice the sexual attractiveness of other women. Another thing is that teenagers have very strong connections to friends - individual friends and groups of friends. You will find your family less appealing to be with, and want to be with friends all the time. If you're trying to define your sexuality at a time when you are starting to really notice people from a sexual perspective (because you are starting to see yourself as a sexual person), and also to want to be with friends instead of family - you can misread your own feelings.
Bottom line - whether you're gay, straight or somewhere on the continuoum in between, it's fine. You can have a great life whatever your sexuality. But if you rush to define it or experiment, you're just going to have a lot of confusing and probably really wounding experiences.
Enjoy your friends, date if you feel like dating and don't rush to find that label. The time to be sexual is when you do know more about who you are, you are very much in love with someone who is very much in love with you, and you are an adult. Much is made of concerns like sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy, but it's just as important emotionally and psychologically to wait to be sexual with other people until you do have a better sense of yourself. There's no replacement for time and life experience, so just slow down and enjoy being young.
Homegirl 50
Aug 21, 2012, 12:57 PM
Great answer, dontknownuthin, have to spread the rep. So I'll just give you a THUMBS UP
Cherry-doll
Aug 24, 2012, 07:37 AM
I'm 15 almost 16 year old female. I've always liked guys and never thought to like a girl. Starting the high school and being a freshmen changes me. I have a friend who's bisexual and her relationship with her girlfriend is pretty good so I wondered what if I got a girlfriend? Guys pics and penises always turn me on but so does girls. I check them out and feel something inside of me. Idk of I'm forcing myself to be bisexual or I'm turning to be bi. My relationship with my ex-es weren't good, I always got hurt of things. One day my friend asked me " are you switching sides" I never took it seriously except these days... I want to try maybe girls are better than dating guys. Is that wrong? Can't I do that and see how it goes ?
Fr_Chuck
Aug 24, 2012, 07:46 AM
You could be, or you could just have a good friend and want to be like them. Your age is tough, since all for those hormones going wild and you should not be acting on any of them
backpack2389
Aug 24, 2012, 09:08 AM
You might be discovering that you are bisexual but you won't know until you date a girl. So, if that's what you need to do to resolve your own confusion and be happy, then there's nothing wrong with it. Just don't get too heavily involved with a girl if you aren't sure you want the relationship. Otherwise, you might unintentionally hurt her feelings and/or further confuse yourself.
Homegirl 50
Aug 24, 2012, 09:36 AM
You're sexually curious and your hormones are on a rampage.